I read this question posted in one of the wedding forums I am part of and thought I should post it here to get your opinion as well….
Q: Do siblings have to be part of your wedding party?
My answer: I don’t believe there’s a precise wedding etiquette for having your or your husband to-be’s siblings part of your wedding party. However, it is a general practice. I’ve got 1 older brother and 1 younger sister and we are now all married. When my brother got married, both my sister and I were bridesmaids. When I got married, both my siblings are part of the wedding party as well. When our youngest sister got married, I was the Matron of Honor and my brother’s only daughter was a flower girl.
I think it all depends on the kind of relationship you have with your siblings whether you’re close to each other or not. In my case, I was close to my siblings and it was sort of a practice being Asian and all.
In some cultures, wedding-related customs are much stricter too. When my best friend in university got married. She had to sit me down and explain to me that it is custom in their family (she’s pure Chinese) to get all her and her groom’s siblings (and she has like 3 sisters and a brother not even counting her fiance’s siblings!) to get their siblings for the wedding party so she couldn’t get me as a bridesmaid even if she wanted to.
In western culture, it’s not as ‘strict’ I think. My Kiwi co-worker’s sister got married and she and her twin didn’t feature in the bridal party. So to each his or her own really.
What about you? What do you think?