It had to happen sooner or later. My 17-month-old had her first full-blown, all-out tantrum yesterday. I am not even sure what it was about (which is often the case with tantrums, is it not?) Sure, she’s been upset in the past when I wouldn’t let her climb on the kitchen table, or play with the medical equipment at the doctor’s office, or color on the walls. Those times she was easily distracted with something else.
This time, nothing I offered was acceptable. Nurse? No! Play outside? Waaaaaaaah! Food? Water? Want me to carry you? No no NO! Finally I made the offer again: “Do you want to nurse?” Yes. Ahhhhh – breastfeeding to the rescue again. It’s the ultimate tantrum tamer, even if it doesn’t work right away. Eventually the child realizes that yes indeed, snuggling and getting mama’s milk sounds like a pretty good idea. Thank goodness for that!
I never did figure out what upset her so much. I suppose that’s part of why tantrums happen in the first place, an inability of the child to communicate what he or she wants or needs (which may not be the same thing), combined with an inability to accept not getting what she wants (I am happy to meet her needs if I can just figure out what those are!)
We’re getting more and more words from her now. Don’t tell her grandma that one of the favorite words — aside from NO — is “poop.” (Hi Mom! Ignore that potty word!) We just change a lot of diapers around here and the word comes up. Plus it’s fun to say and it makes her sisters laugh. So there you go.