The other night I hauled out my copy of Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too. I have yet to manage to finish the book, but the squabbles between my 7-year-old and my 5-year-old lately have motivated me to get back to it.
This afternoon, my 5-year-old and 1-year-old fell asleep in the car on the way home from our outing at the arboretum. I took both girls up to bed and thought to myself how much my 7-year-old and I would enjoy the unexpected quiet time. I’d gotten a new book for my 7-year-old at the library and she sat down on the glider to read.
Imagine my surprise when she came to me and we had this conversation:
7-year-old: Mama, I want [my sister] to be awake.
Me: You let her sleep. She needs the rest.
7-year-old: But it’s awful! It’s so lonely without her bothering me while I read!
I guess one thing I need to recognize, and this is probably covered somewhere in that Siblings Without Rivalry book, is that siblings get some amount of enjoyment out of the squabbling. Sibling rivalry is sometimes a form a sibling revelry, and I shouldn’t let it worry me so.