Au Naturel: A Growing Case for Pubic Hair

This essay was originally published under the title I Actually Like My Pubic Hair for Blisstree’s sister site, TheGloss.

As a twenty five year old American female, I am acutely aware of the hullabaloo surrounding hoo-has. With summer upon us, and many talking of bald, even decorated vaginas, it’s easy to forget that some people don’t go in for any of it. And, as it so happens, “some people” is a group that includes yours truly. I’m not a smelly hippie, or a raver, or, God forbid, one of those burning man people. But I’ve never removed my pubic hair since first it sprouted, and, despite what the media would have you believe, you don’t have to either, if you don’t want.

That’s right, never. Other girls my age receive this information with shocked stares, followed by the inevitable, “but you trim, right?” Nope! I’ve tried trimming the ol’ soup strainer (if vaginas ate soup) exactly twice, once in high school and once in college, and both times yielded the same result: a crotch so itchy I couldn’t concentrate in class. Unwilling to sacrifice my academic performance for a cute haircut downstairs, and a fan of neither the look nor the discomfort of shaving/waxing, I made a deal with my special lady: I’d leave her hair alone if she promised not to get itchy. It’s been smooth sailing ever since.

I guess I should back up a bit. The first woman I saw naked was my mother. A free-spirited child of the sixties, she was, of course, all natural. The books they showed us in school about what would soon happen to our bodies confirmed it: sprouting hair in exciting new places was part of growing up. I remember taking gang showers at Girl Scout camp, admiring the full, luxurious bushes of the older girls and thinking, someday I, too, will have a bush of my very own. You can only imagine my excitement when this came to pass. It was like a de facto bat mitzvah for me. Mazel tov! Today I am a woman!

Even once I’d entered the wonderful world of boy-girl touching, it never occurred to me to shave it. What practical purpose would it serve? I realize not everyone has this luxury, but my bush fit nicely within the confines of my swimsuit. It wasn’t until I got to college that I found out many girls were taking theirs off completely, and many guys claimed to prefer, nay, require it of their lovers before they would deign to put their mouths down there. “Pubic hair is gross!” folks would say, or, “I don’t know how you could be so inconsiderate.” I shrugged it off. If I was going to take personal grooming advice from anyone, it certainly wasn’t an 18-year-old freshman from Long Island with a Dave Matthews Band poster on his wall who’d probably never even eaten a pussy properly.

And yet, as I got older, the pressure grew. Curiously enough, I found most of it came from my fellow women. Despite their unlikelihood of ever coming into contact with my pudenda, they felt a need to preach what they saw as the only hygienic and sightly option in a world where one must be as flawless as possible in order to land one of those increasingly slippery men. Was I that out of touch with the rest of humanity? Was my college-era boyfriend just being polite, secretly scorning the onerous task of cunnilingus each and every time he performed it on me, even going so far as to fake smile afterward?

Possibly! However, an unscientific survey of my friends and acquaintances says most men (and a few women) don’t much care how hairy their partners are. Furthermore, most downplay the hair-in-teeth factor (hair doesn’t grow on clits, right?) with a few outliers who hate getting hair or any kind anywhere near their mouths (but they’re neurotic in other ways, too, so they don’t count). So why do so many young people think it’s bald or GTFO?

A common explanation among a certain brand of feminist is to blame it all on porn, with its buffed Barbie dolls and oh-so-realistic sex acts. I don’t blame porn. I blame stupid people who think real life is supposed to be just like porn. I am, in fact, in porn (albeit of the softcore, “pin-up” variety), and have never had any real problems. For every ignorant comment someone leaves, there are five more telling me how neat it is to see a lady with bush. There’s even a whole group just for members and Suicidegirls to talk about how much they love hirsute women. The reasons they cite for liking bush vary; most find it womanly, fragrant, animalistic, or otherwise erotic. My bush-liking roommate calls it “classic.” Personally, I appreciate it aesthetically; the way that little dark patch breaks up a bland expanse of skin, providing visual variation and signifying super fun times in the vicinity.

It’s also worth noting that one of today’s most popular porn stars, Sasha Grey, is frequently seen sporting a somewhat furry muff in her movies, and I wouldn’t be surprised if others began to follow suit. Porn giveth pubes, and porn taketh pubes away. And then it giveth again.

So, in conclusion: you can do whatever you like with your hair down there, but you shouldn’t do it out of some wrongheaded belief that it’s mandatory. It’s not! If a partner asks you to change it up, hear them out, but keep in mind that at the end of the day, it’s your vagina, and as a guest in there, they should respect that.

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    • brad

      Good for you. I can’t stand a bald vagina! A full bush is way hotter and sexier.

    • Jimmy

      Glad there are women like you out there, I love a woman with a full bush, its very erotic, I find it much more attractive, I would go as far to say that I would not date or marry a woman who shaved hers, theres more important things in life.

    • Michael

      I can’t stand a bald vagina. I love a hairy pubic region, as long as it’s well groomed. I like the idea of being able to run my fingers through her pubic hair(and parting it) during foreplay. A shaved female pubic region is a real turn-off to me.

    • Dave

      I positively HATE pubic hair!!! It’s gross, it’s smells no matter how often a woman bathes and it’s completely out of style! Oral sex on a woman with pubic hair is like munching Brillo!

      Get over it! Women remove their pubic hair because intercourse with a smooth vagina is the closest thing to nirvana – for both men AND women! But you wouldn’t know that because you’ve never tried it.

      As for the visual, there is nothing uglier than an unkempt thatch of kinky, curly pubic wool peeking out from behind a woman’s panties or bikini bottoms. GROSS! Worse is the sight of a cotton, nylon or spandex brief, masking a huge matted thicket that protrudes from a woman’s mons as if she were hiding a sock.

      And as for all of those positive comments that you receive praising your furry patch, they come from a small minority of men out there who simply can’t tolerate the site of a woman’s pudendum, so they prefer that it be covered to the point where it is no longer visible. The majority of men don’t comment because they’re turned off and there are so many other women on the net who do shave, that it’s not worth their time. (Present company excepted.)

      In short, pubic hair is about as “classic” as underarm hair. Just because your Victorian grandmother didn’t shave doesn’t make shaving your pubic area wrong, creepy or perverted. After all, shaving the pubic area was universal in ancient Egypt, Greece and Rome. In fact is was common up until the reign of Queen Victoria – a period of 60 years of extreme sexual repression. It’s already taken over 100 years to shake off the conservative shackles of that era and we’re still not finished.

      Finally, might I suggest a laser treatment? Laser will leave you perfectly smooth with absolutely NO ITCHING. If you are “trimming” and you are “itchy” then you didn’t trim close enough. Not sold on Laser? Try shaving bare first. There’s no way you will feel “itchy” until the hair starts to re-grow. If that begins to itch you can either keep shaving it or try something permanent. And “why?” you might ask. For the same sort of reasons that you already shave your legs and underarms; wax your arms and upper lip; color your hair; paint your nails; enlarge your boobs; diet, and; exercise. SEX! That’s why.

      By the way, Sasha Grey is one of literally a FEW women in the industry who sport a bush. In terms of marketing her brand, she appeals to a niche. Coincidetally, she appeared in a couple of “straight” films which might have had to accept “NC-17″ ratings if she were to appear with a denuded pubic area. Thus, even if she had thoughts of shaving, she would have been prevented from doing so until the shooting had finished. And why an NC-17 rating? Because the Motion Picture Ratings Board is made up of a group of people who still gasp at the sight of a woman’s genitals – “Nope, America’s not going to see that!”

      Still, in closing, it’s truly doubtful that pubic hair will make any such “come-back”. After all, why would it? I would say that it has about the same chance of becoming popular again as underarm hair. And that’s not going to happen. Of course, there will always be those who “do their own thing” and that’s fine. Just as long as you don’t characterize the rest of us as weird because we’ve discovered what has been supressed for so long.

    • p

      Excellent piece of writing! Your points are right on and well written. Thank you for encouraging others to…think and live for themselves rather buying into the B.S. Okay, i’m from the hippie counterculture–we are not represented in popular culture which is just fine–and none of my partners has shaved, most have had armpit hair. It’s all earthy and wonderful expression of femininity. Natural bodies are beautiful and can reflect a person who has a healthy sense of self. Now that’s attractive. I also find your point that most pressure on women to conform does come from other women. There’s a topic….

    • puzdre

      A ray of sanity in an, otherwise, insane world.
      I tend to agree with your aesthetic reasons. It’s all in that contrast between hairy and non-hairy parts.
      Plus, it’s also the fact that (nowadays) hairy nether regions are usually a sign of a self-confident woman. And I find confidence much more sexy than insecurity.

    • Luis

      I am amazed and excited that my girl whom I seriously fall in love with is now a full grown woman. I just can’t imagine her having a child-like body down there.

      Her natural, untrimmed full grown pubic hair is already a national treasure to me.

    • Pest

      I hope everyone claiming to like hairy woman groins because it’s natural also appreciates shaggy legs, pits, and upper lips.

    • Proud owner of a Bush

      Pubic Hair is covered because it special. It is beautiful and I’m glad I have it!

    • Hani

      I absolutely love the shit out of this.

    • Tamara R

      I absolutely love this!! :’D