Whether you dread them or look forward to them, your twilight years will come, but one thing we’re usually taught to believe about growing old is that sex comes to a halt. According to Dr. Dorree Lynn, author of Sex for Grownups, sex after 50 doesn’t have to be null and void. Here are seven myths about sex in your twilight years that she busted for More Magazine:
1. Older Women Are Bad In Bed: Years of experience will hardly make you a lousy lover. In many cultures and times past, older women helped initiate young men into the world of sex.
2. Women Over 50 Don’t Want Sex As Much As Men Over 50: Women just need better foreplay, sex talk, and communication about sex.
3. Women’s Sex Drive Diminishes Faster Than Men’s: Though women’s desires can be more complex (yes, we like to cuddle), they don’t go away. On the contrary, older women report that they know what they want, so sex can actually become more enjoyable.
4. Older Women Don’t Want Oral: Women over 50, like women under 50, have varying preferences, and oral sex is one of them. Getting more comfortable with yourself is one of the perks of age, however, so if you’re into oral sex, you’re more likely to enjoy it by the time you hit 50.
5. Older Women Don’t Have Fantasies: Most women have fantasies, and they’re a healthy part of maintaining sex drive. If your mind tends to wander towards menu planning and tomorrow’s work meetings, try focusing on something or someone new (and sexier).
6. Women Over 50 Need Romance To Have Sex: We don’t know many women who don’t like to be wined and dined, and though most women do like to have some kind of emotional connection, it’s not any more required after 50 than before.
7. Women Lose Feeling In Their Vaginas As They Age: Hormonal changes do occur with age, which can cause vaginal dryness and effect sensitivity down there. But it varies woman to woman, and using vibrators and having regular sex can help maintain a healthy drive.
via More Magazine