Conscious Climax: How to Think Yourself to Orgasm

Earlier this week, I wrote about a new study which says women can not only achieve orgasm physically, but can also achieve it just by thinking about it. And naturally, this is just too good a topic to leave well enough alone. I want to talk about this more. And then think about it. A lot. However, to Dr. Carol Queen, a Good Vibrations staff sexologist, this new study isn’t that really all that new, seeing as how she’s encountered women with this ability several times before.

“I have met women, a very few, who can do this,” Dr. Queen explains. “As far as we know, it is a rare capability, but surely not unknown.”

Dr. Queen explains that, like meditators, women with this ability can exercise great control over their brains, and can let go into a fantasy, perhaps more fully than the rest of us, to achieve a “no-hands” orgasm. According to her, there are also a few subtle movements one can do to enhance the visualization: pelvic movements; rhythmic muscle tightening, especially of the pelvic floor muscles (aka Kegels or PC [pubococcygeal] muscles); and deep breathing.

“A woman should be able to clear her mind and environment of distractions and know what kind of mental imagery is most likely to excite her,” Dr. Queen explains. “Adding the adjunct physical practices will also help. In particular, rhythmically clenching the pelvic muscles and engaging in writhing or “humping” motions.”

Sounds fan-tantric to me. But Dr.Queen also cautions that studies like this require experimentation and research before they can make sweeping be-all-and-end-all claims, because discovery is an ongoing process.

“When so little of women’s sexuality is fundamentally understood, this study gives the reader the impression that we know more than we do,” Dr. Queen states. “Researchers would so often like to give the impression that they’ve unlocked the last door to the mystery, and so far, that’s not at all the case.”

“The majority of women don’t orgasm during intercourse with men on a regular basis,” she continues. “And sexual partnership is about far more than orgasm. “It’s about love, companionship, touch, and other elements that do not come with a sex toy or the ability to think yourself to orgasm.”

You can find out more about Good Vibrations and Dr. Carol Queen by visiting their website at www.goodvibes.com

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    • meg

      yes it is capable to do this

    • Piper

      I have been able to do this since I was a teenager – and the “scientific” know-it-alls are just learning about this now? Wow!

    • pepe

      I remember I once did it while in a taxi on my way to college. I have been doing this since I was a teenager.

    • Christina

      My body seems to do this on its own. Multiple times I’ve woken up to my body orgasming without me doing anything.

    • Gracie

      Agree with the other posters. Totally can do it. I am really glad this study has come out as it makes me feel better about what I was experiencing as none of my friends had done this. I don’t how well it would work to train yourself to be able to, it just came naturally for me during my teens.

    • Diane

      I have been able to do this since being a teenager. It would happen mostly when I was nervous for a test or something like that. But I can still do it now as well.

    • Paige

      I wonder how many women had their first orgasm with a man. Not many, I would say!!! My first was that time of month about 40 years ago, and was wearing a pad, while sitting down, and badabing, I felt something and it was ON from there. My orgasms have always been better and stronger when on my own!! (60 yrs old now. Lots of experience. And the mind will take you away!!)

    • Isabel

      yes, i have woken up in the middle of the night because i was having a nocturnal orgasm. it doesn’t happen all that often, but it’s a welcome addition to my night’s rest when it does (i usually just drift right back to sleep hahaha). good to know that it’s not just me though!

    • Christine Estima

      Wow, thanks for all these comments, ladies. Keep ‘em coming. I had no idea how prevalent this phenomenon is. And for the record, I am extremely jealous, LOL!

    • Ruth

      I can totally do this too, and it is amazing! Truly wonderful! :D