Let’s face it: Our culture is weight-obsessed. We’re fascinated with the quest for lean, hard bodies, and always scouring the latest trends and studies for new ways to achieve it. We may or may not measure ourselves by our appearance, but when someone achieves a significant weight-loss, it’s treated as a momentous event. Richard Simmons, The Biggest Loser, Dancing With The Stars, and Celebrity Fit Club have all made it okay for us to talk about our health and fitness goals, especially when the scale shows us the difference in our bodies. But new research suggests that we actually look down our noses at weight-loss winners, especially when it comes to women.
A study conducted at the University of Liverpool says that women will more often than not scoff at their formerly-pudgy counterparts because they now see them as competition. Men, however, tend to be more accepting of a woman’s weight-loss, as it indicates she’d probably be open to dating. As much as it chagrins me to admit it, this sounds fairly true to life.
Women, for reasons beyond me, instinctively see each other as competition, whether we’re aware of it or not. I often fall victim to it, and I have made a conscious effort to be more sistah-praising. When I catch myself in a catty moment, I try to shove those thoughts away and embrace the sisterhood, but it is a daily thing that we women struggle with.
Valerie Bertinelli, Kirstie Alley, Oprah Winfrey, Kate Winslet, and Renee Zellweger are just some of the celebrities with fluctuating waist-lines that have become the food of gossip, and boy do we love to gorge. But isn’t it telling that when these women come out on top of the bulge-battle, it becomes a news-worthy event? Do you remember when Ricky Gervais dropped 40 lbs? Or Jason Alexander? Or Karl Lagerfeld? Yeah, me neither.
Ladies, we need to celebrate each others’ weight loss achievements, and not just because we look better. Anything that prevents illness and disease is a good thing. We’re not put on this earth just to compete for male attention, and we shouldn’t treat each other merely as such. In fact, if you lose weight, I want you to share your success, because that kind of inspiration is just the kick in butt some of us need to get moving.
As for you men, just because a gal’s dropped a dress size doesn’t mean she’ll automatically want to date you. First, you have to be, you know, a nice person, and stuff.