When did relationships become less about true love and compatibility and more about how much the other person weighs?
In a new research study, AskMen.com and Cosmopolitan.com polled 70,000 people about how the modern man and woman thinks for their “Great Male Survey” and “Great Female Survey”. While the findings revealed some typical man-like behaviors, like 32% saying beer is the ultimate guy’s drink and 48% saying they would punch a colleague in the face, nearly half said they would dump their female partner if she became fat.
Come on guys, we thought you were better than that.
James Bassil, editor-in-chief of AskMen, says that while chivalry isn’t dead, size matters to guys. We have to wonder why. While there are a number of explanations that come to mind (like fearing a loss of sexual attraction or fearing that he too may lose his chiseled body at some point), the reason that is foremost in my mind is that men are more insecure than women are. They just won’t admit it… Hear me out.
When guys start dating a good-looking girl, they—and all of their friends—view her as a good “catch.” Having a gorgeous woman on their arm makes them feel like a worthy, important and masculine human being. Why do you think so many reality shows portray men who marry that drop-dead fake blonde even though they don’t have the slightest thing in common?
Now, of course, not all good-looking women fall into the “trophy wife” category—many pretty women are also smart and high-achieving, too. But that’s besides the point. What is the point is that dudes like the effect that a beautiful, slim, sexy woman has on their ego. They like the attention they get, whether it’s in a crowd of strangers or at their high-school reunion (the old, “Wow, look who the captain of the chess club got to marry him. He must really be someone now”.) And for a while, he does feel like someone. But when his partner changes her appearance and puts on a considerable amount of weight, so her boost to his self-confidence changes, too. Suddenly the guy can feel differently about himself—not necessarily about her. Thus, the beeline to divorce court.
It’s all very shallow, really.
On the flip side, women are not as superficial as we sometimes think. The same survey found that while 51% of men wished they had a larger penis, only 18% of women said they wished their partner were better endowed. See guys? She’s not gonna leave you just because of your size.
Now before you think we’re saying that all men are total sleazes, believe me, we’re not. Just because there are plenty of frogs out there doesn’t mean there aren’t a lot of princes too. Case in point: This week’s Ms. Monogamy post. We love a guy who loves us, no matter what.