Today on Twitter, country star and, more recently, target of media attention for her weight loss, LeAnn Rimes attempted to put to bed yet another rumor that’s been circulating about her: that she and husband Eddie Cibrian (who already has a child) are trying to have a baby. In a brief exchange with fans, who had been wondering aloud if she was able to have children, Rimes stated that she had “never tried to [get pregnant]” and implored the two to “please stop discussing my ovaries.” Which, you know, is pretty good advice all around. Can we agree to tone down the hysteria (in the truest sense of the word) surrounding what’s happening with other women’s wombs?
Rimes, who is not shy about calling the media out for their irresponsible behavior, has spoken out about the issue before, stating that she doesn’t appreciate the pressure that’s put on women. And she’s right: there are about a million reasons why a woman may not want the goings on of her reproductive organs to be a topic of dinner table conversation, and yet, regardless of how successful or busy or important a woman is, if she’s married (or even if she isn’t!), her uterus is fair game. She’s certainly not the only one who’s getting it, either–though, because she’s married and 29, she’s definitely getting a hefty dose of baby-pressure.
Consider the hype coming out of the UK right night. Everyone and their mother is holding their breath in anticipation of a royal announcement, as Will and Kate Middleton continue to stave off rumors of a pregnancy. And it’s not even reserved for women who aren’t pregnant yet–after months of close observation by the public, the internet was abuzz this weekend as fans anxiously awaited to hear confirmation that Beyonce was going into labor, which it seems, still isn’t true.
While the kind of rampant attention that’s being paid to the ‘nether regions of other women is magnified when it’s splashed across the covers of tabloids and gossip blogs, it’s happening on a micro level, too–and it’s getting problematic. Just about any of my unmarried female friends who visited with family over the last week and a half have reported uncomfortable conversations with aging grandparents, who have begun to tap their toes impatiently and ask about when they may be able to expect wedding bells…and eventually, grandchildren. Which, at a time when marriages rates are historically low, and when more and more women are opting out of parenthood, could be a while–but that doesn’t make it easier to explain to Nana when reminds you for the 30th time to make sure you give the baby you’re not sure you want a family name.
It is entirely possible that LeAnn Rimes is joining the ranks of those who don’t want to have children, or that she doesn’t feel ready (she’s 29, remember?), or that she may have medical complications that make pregnancy difficult. But regardless of the reasons, speculating about it doesn’t help anyone, and can get pretty judgmental, pretty quickly. Let’s take her advice, and stop discussing everyone else’s ovaries.
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