We read sex tips and recount hilarious stories a la Sex and The City all the time, but rarely do we get a glimpse into what sex is really like in a relationship without a polished script, scrupulous editing, and Hollywood lighting. Which is why The Sex Diaries Project is so fascinating: Written as a log of notes and honest reflections, they chronicle a few days in the sex lives of real people, as told by the people themselves. And now they’re a book: The Sex Diaries Project: What We’re Saying About What We’re Doing, edited by Arianne Cohen.
In honor of Valentine’s Day, Arianne has allowed Mommyish to publish a few short excerpts fromThe Sex Diaries Project: What We’re Saying About What We’re Doing. We chose three days in the lives of women who are in relationships. Do you this is what “relationship sex” is really like? Read the excerpts and tell us what you think.
The Upstanding Schoolteacher Who Would Like Some Triple-X Time
32, Ouachita Parish, Louisiana
8:00 a.m.: First morning of summer break, and my wife continues our tradition of a good morning blowjob and breakfast. With a start like this, the stack of grading is hardly daunting at all.
1:15 p.m.: Damn the French and their cinema. Watching a movie, and the last scene has me missing my wife’s bottom, giving it a squeeze, but she’s off shopping.
4:18 p.m.: In passing I touched her ass while she cooks. Such a lovely thing, a woman’s ass. I reflect over the fine memories I have of my wife’s ass.
6:00 p.m.: I doubt that I masturbate more than five times a year. Since January, however, that number has increased and I’d bet I’ve masturbated more in the last five months than in seven years of mar- riage. A couple times I’ve done it in front of her. She masturbates fairly frequently herself and has throughout the marriage. It’s helped me be more attentive to her when we do have sex. With three young kids and a newly pregnant wife, we’ve remarkably been able to give each other some enjoyment twice or thrice a week.
9:02 p.m.: An endless graduation ceremony has drained my libido. I rehash the horror to my wife as she bathes.
10:06 p.m.: Conflict. My wife volunteered me to babysit the diffi- cult nephew, along with my kids, tomorrow while she and her sister attend a lingerie party. So no sex.