Jane Fonda, age 74, has a new man in her life, and the sex is apparently really hot. Even better? She’s not afraid to talk about it. Jane says:
At 74, I have never had such a fulfilling sex life. When I was young I had so many inhibitions – I didn’t know what I desired.
I’m so glad Jane is being open about her rockin’ sex life after 70. I feel like there’s such a social stigma against old people having sex. People don’t like to think about or talk about senior citizens as sexual beings; it makes us uncomfortable, squeamish, grossed out. If you don’t believe me, check out the comments on this article where badass Betty White says “you’re never too old for sex.” So much ageism there, it makes me sad. And remember the controversy after Al and Tipper Gore’s famous kiss (they were then in their early fifties, by the way)? And did you know some nursing homes won’t let their residents have sex? Not to mention there are basically no decent depictions of older people’s sexuality in Hollywood movies. Tamara McClintock Greenberg discusses this stigma in a 2009 blog post at the Psychology Today blog:
Moreover, because we live in a predominantly youth-oriented society, the idea of the elderly having sex doesn’t conjure up the same satisfying expression of youthful vitality that we see in movies or on television….Although the image of elderly people having sex may not be popular or cool, and may challenge our views of lifestyles in later years, it’s a normal activity that older adults actually engage in.
I guess there are some people that feel that the sexual portion of someone’s life should be over once they hit a certain age. But I don’t agree, and neither does Jane Fonda. Her new “lover” (love that she uses that word!) is a 70-year-old man named Rick Perry. She says:
The only thing I have never known is true intimacy with a man. I absolutely wanted to discover that before dying. It has happened with Richard, I feel totally secure with him. Often, when we make love, I see him as he was 30 years ago.
You might be saying ewww. I’m saying awww. It sounds like she’s really found a wonderful, supportive partner—something that’s important at any age. I also think it’s vital that Jane Fonda, a symbol of beauty and glamour since the 60s (not to mention an outspoken feminist and supporter of women’s rights) is speaking out about sex in the “golden years,” as they say. She’s also been open about the fact that she’s used testosterone to enhance her sex life. I’m sure she’s not the only older woman who’s enjoying a good time between the sheets, and hopefully now these women will feel more comfortable sharing the fact that sexuality doesn’t end at menopause. Sex is a normal and healthy behavior, both physically and emotionally; I hope our society can move towards a point where sex after 60 (and even 50!) is no longer a stigma.
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