Ever since his famous jumping-up-and-down incident on Oprah where he declared his undying love for Katie Holmes, Tom Cruise has gotten, well, weird. And while some speculate that his involvement with Scientology is to blame for the demise of their marriage, others claim it was (gasp!) a relationship with David Beckham (second gasp!). But who really cares, right? Well, we do, maybe a little. But more importantly, we care about Katie and the awesomely healthy role model that she has become for women and relationships.
People reported on their cover story that Holmes kicks ass. Well, not in so many words, but she does. The magazine says their source confirmed that the 33 year-old was “was increasingly unhappy in her five-year marriage to Tom Cruise as she realized ‘she no longer had the life she wanted, in terms of her career, her way of life, everything.’”
So Holmes did what every woman should do when they are unhappy–something. Not necessarily divorce in all cases, unless of course the couch fits…
“Once she decided to go, she was done,” People‘s source continued.
Apparently, her attorney helped her orchestrate a quick getaway where she moved into a new downtown Manhattan apartment and switched cell phones without telling her husband:
She knew she had to have everything locked down before she pulled the trigger because there could be no wiggle room if she didn’t want this to turn into a long, drawn-out battle.
Then on Monday–just 11 short days after Holmes announced her divorce filing–lawyers revealed that they had reached a settlement. Holmes got primary custody of their 6-year-old daughter Suri and a life free from Cruise and his supposed antics.
What’s so great about Holmes through this is the fact that she kept her private life private. She wasn’t on the Today show airing her dirty laundry and throwing jabs at dear-old Tom (unlike Christie Brinkley who cried on there recently about her loser ex-husband, Peter Cook). Countless other celebs have done similar things by making their messy life everyone’s business and sticking their kids right in the middle of it all.
There is something really strong and classy about a woman who handles a personal situation like that with tact and grace and maturity and privacy. Sure, she could have sold her story to the tabloids or signed a book deal (who knows, maybe she still will, but somehow, I doubt it), but it appears that Katie just wants some peace and a return to normalcy in her new life with her daughter.
Not that every woman who is unhappy in her marriage should seek divorce, but every woman who is unhappy in life (be it their marriage, career, weight, etc.) should seek something, whether it’s therapy, counseling, a new job, yoga, or six months to hike the Pacific Crest Trail. Do something when you’re unhappy and unfulfilled. Don’t just sit there and wallow in it, please.
Be like Katie. Move quickly, move with grace and move in a positive direction. She has shown women that they can be strong, healthy role models to each other and their children, and that’s nothing short of freakin awesome.