More and more women are making the decision to be childfree–but that doesn’t mean it’s getting any easier to find a doctor who is supportive of or willing to perform an elective tubal ligation on a childfree woman under the age of 40, mostly because they’re afraid the patient will change her mind (even though most women don’t). But for those women who are sure–and there are many of them–it’s worth it to fight and even lie to get an operation to ensure they live the lives they want.
Recently, a writer told Slate that she fibbed about a medical condition to get hers done at 26-which apparently, isn’t that uncommon of a way to go about it. But for most women, it’s just a struggle to find anyone who will do it, as evidenced by the comments on a recent article I wrote on the subject.
We wanted to present some of the real struggles that women have gone through, just to get a procedure that they’re 100% confident they want. Most went through many painful “solutions,” like various birth control methods, beforehand. All were treated like there was something wrong with them. Some are still too afraid of the childfree stigma to admit that they’ve even had the procedure done.
Here are their stories.