30 by 30: Why Short Skirts And South Beach Aren’t Just For Skinny Girls

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I have always held a few things in life as things that only skinny people can do: Buying designer jeans, wearing a two-piece swimsuit and vacationing in Miami, to name a few.

I have no issues with other tropical vacation spots and love sleeveless dresses, short shorts and spending entire days in a bathing suit…just not in Miami. For some reason, it’s long been fixed as the holy grail of the beautiful and the skinny–and not a place that I belong.

But a few years ago my girlfriends and I decided to spend a couple of days in Miami before boarding a Labor Day cruise. I have never worked as hard at the gym as I did that summer. Everything I ate, every workout I completed was all with Miami in mind. I felt had to look a certain way to enjoy myself in the home of the beautiful and the fit. A week before we left for vacation, I hit my halfway weight, a number I hadn’t seen since junior high. I was ecstatic.

And when we arrived in Miami, I realized several things:

  1. It was just like any other city and I had made up this fake anxiety in my head.
  2. My friends were just happy to be with me on vacation; they didn’t care what I wore or what I looked like.
  3. Regardless of location, how I carry myself is more important than what size I am.

Now – don’t get me wrong, I felt AMAZING that first night in Miami. But it wasn’t all about how I looked. Yes, I bought a new dress, wore my favorite heels and danced the night away. But most importantly, I felt confident, I felt happy and I had so much fun.

Last month, I found out I would be heading to Miami for work for five days this week. I leave tomorrow. I’ve been too busy to dwell on it…until my friend sent me a link to a club he wants to go to, and my inner self freaked out: “I’m not skinny anymore. I can’t go to Miami – only the beautiful people are there! Is it possible to just hide in my hotel room??” Questions and body issues and panic attacks have been swirling around in my head

Over the weekend, I even began to imagine ways that I could bail on the work trip entirely. A rare disease? A broken limb? A family emergency? In the end, I decided to tear apart my closet until I found three suitable outfits that passed my Miami litmus test.

As I pranced up and down my hall in an unending parade of high heels, silk and sequins, I realized that once again, I was letting my perception of my body limit me from things I love to do. I am spending unnecessary time worrying about something that can only be changed by getting off my ass and not worrying about it anymore. The bottom line? It doesn’t matter whether I’m a size 6 or a 16; I can still go to Miami and have a blast. Lucky for me, I found several outfits during my hallway fashion show that will most definitely make me look great and feel great in Miami even if I don’t have a flat stomach yet.

And to be honest, isn’t that what Spanx are for anyway?

The weekly drill-down:

HIGH: Finding a brand new neon blue Banana Republic skirt that fits me to pack for Miami! (See picture)

LOW: It was the dreaded PMS week where every piece of fruit seems like death and chocolate is a girl’s best friend.

+/-: -1 lb. Back in the saddle, slowly but surely.

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    • Samantha_Escobar

      I think it’s marvelous that you are so positive (also, that blue skirt is fantastic and that grey shirt outfit is excellent). I wish I could be more like that, and am definitely trying to be.

      I didn’t wear shorts or a bathing suit that didn’t have a medium-length skirt between the ages of 13 and 20 (which, oddly enough, was when I was actually skinnier than I am now). But then I realized I’d been living in a super hot temperature for a year and had suffered just because I was ashamed of my cellulite and thigh size when nobody around me actually gave a damn; all they saw was a really warm person with a red face as a result of her stubbornness and fear. These days I still get self-conscious, but not nearly as much. Hopefully I can become more positive a la you!

    • Briana Rognlin

      Agreed! Your attitude is awesome, such a great reminder that friends and people around us are way, way less concerned with our appearance/weight/clothes than we tend to be.

      And man…I think almost every woman of every size can probably relate to having those moments of anxiety about going somewhere–whether it’s the beach or a party–where all you can think about is being body conscious, to the point of not enjoying the event at all. Awesome to hear about how you talked yourself down from faking a broken bones to get out of Miami–hope you end up having an amazing trip!

    • Luci

      You’re an inspiration, friend! Your attitude is stellar, and your outfits equally so.

    • Nancy

      You look beautiful in those outfits! Don’t worry about other people, have fun in Miami!

    • http://twitter.com/Liv_S_Meyer Liv Meyer

      I love the right one and the middle one! I always used to say I couldn’t wear this or that until I had lost 10-20 pounds, but nowadays I just wear it. Life is too short!

    • Gym Classy Lady

      The thing about confidence is most people are faking it anyway and usually, faking it till you make it works. I have 31 years of experience here. :)