I laid awake the other night with the headline â€śThe Weight Loss Blogger who Can’t Lose Weight,â€ť running through my head. It sat with meâ€¦like a ton of bricks. What if I make it to 30 and have to confess that I never got there? Did I even try? There are few things harsher than tracking my weight and watching it go down, then up, then down, then up and on and on. As the month of January rolled right past, my excuses began piling up. The travel has been excruciating; there have been a lot of celebrations; the gym is so crowded that my classes fill up before I even get there; itâ€™s cold. All of this is true but also so very very sad, and so very very fixable.
I spent this past week at my parents’ home in Arkansas taking care of my mom after a recent knee surgery. And magically, all of those excuses I mentioned were gone. It was 70 degrees, I was home all day in a huge kitchen where I could make anything I wanted, the treadmill was in the room next to mine. And yet? I barely moved off the club chair in the living room. I ate birthday cake and cheese dip and Shipleyâ€™s donuts. I drank diet soda like it was water. I fell right back into the habits so deeply ingrained in me from 18 years of life in the South. And one night, while watching a particularly compelling episode of Scandal, I saw a commercial for one hour weight loss. ONE HOUR. ONE SIZE. Guaranteed.
As I sat there, I began an old pattern of thinking. Ok, if I could go do that, I would get a jump start. Then Iâ€™d definitely be on my way. I wonder how much it costs. Should I check it out? I mean, it is â€śresearchâ€ť for a weight loss column. Iâ€™d be doing my readers a favor. It sounds so easy, soon enough Iâ€™d be halfway to my goal.
And that was when I realized it. Thereâ€™s something about living in the South that makes me apathetic, lazy and unmotivated. The portions are larger, I drive everywhere and I fall so hard back into my bad habits that I donâ€™t recognize my new life anymore. I spent my whole life looking for those quick fixes. Slimfast, Hydroxycut, Hollywood Diet, you name it. And they didnâ€™t work for me. EVER.
I never realized how different my eating patterns had become since I moved to New York seven years ago until I was spending the weekend at a friendâ€™s apartment a couple of years ago. He was sitting in the living room and I got up to go make us PopTarts. While I was waiting on the toaster, I leaned into the living room to tell him something. He stopped me in the middle of my story and said, â€śWait. Why do you have a knife in your hand? Are you cutting the PopTarts?â€ť â€śNo!â€ť I replied enthusiastically. â€śItâ€™s for the butter.â€ť This particular friend grew up in Florida and was very heavy as a child. Heâ€™s now fit and very health conscious, so I was comfortable enough to ask him, â€śIs this a fat kid thing?â€ť He promptly replied, â€śKendyl, That is the FATTEST kid thing. You do not put butter on a PopTart that already has 9,000 calories.â€ť
I was devastated. Not only because he had now ruined one of my favorite breakfast treats, but because it called into question all the eating habits of the old me. What is normal and what is a product of the environment I was raised in? I now frequently text him and say, â€śFat kid thing?â€ť to vet something that myself or those around me are eating. It helps keep me in check, but in reality, I shouldnâ€™t be eating something if I have to ask that about it.
While I was at my parentâ€™s home, these things were spinning. If I had grown up somewhere else would I struggle so much? Would I be a weight loss failure if I hadnâ€™t been raised around butter and fried vegetables and extreme lack of portion control? Would I even have to lose weight or would I have a more normal weight?
Today was a rough emotional day. My coping habits are to go have pasta and wine and maybe a cookie. I felt sad, I felt overwhelmed, I felt anxious. And all those roads lead to buttered PopTarts. But instead, I laced up my tennis shoes and got my butt to the gym. As my feet circled around the elliptical, I thought about the fate of the fat kids everywhere. Itâ€™s not about where I live, or who I am related to, though those may be additional challenges. Itâ€™s about how I choose to deal with the day in, day out of the grind. This is my life and I canâ€™t blame anyone or any place but myself for the size of my ass.
HIGH: I sent my coworker a guest pass to my gym for the week and I had forgotten how awesome it was to have a workout pal.
LOW: Donuts and birthday cake donâ€™t make the scale go down. Iâ€™m frustrated with my lack of effort and the lack of results. This weekâ€™s goal is to get to the gym 5 times.
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