101 Straight Days Of Anything, Is A Bit Much

This post is for you, Gayla!

During my morning online news romp, I discovered an article about a couple who decided to embark on a journey. After eleven years of marriage, two kids and careers, they were feeling less than content with their relationship. So, they went to the extreme, in order to make their marriage stronger. They both committed to having sex, every day, for 101 days. The whole purpose of this exercise was to bring the couple closer together through increased physical intimacy. You can read the whole article by clicking on this sentence.

I have a few things to say about this. First, if they had sex every day for 101 days, wouldn’t that mean that they did it while she was menstruating? I don’t know about you ladies, but when I’m experiencing cramps and hemorrhaging, I do not want to be talked to or touched, much less penetrated. Secondly, it just seems to me that the act would become mundane and nothing more than an obligation. To me, sex should be a spontaneous demonstration of your love and affection for your spouse/partner. I would not enjoy it as much if I knew that we had to do it.

So, what happens when you get sick, or are just exhausted? How do you keep the sex fun and interesting? What happens if you get pregnant while on this sex-capade? You can ask all of your burning questions on the website. Personally, I like my sex life, just the way it is. I also think that if our relationship needs some sprucing up, obligated sex will not be the route I choose to take. Intimacy does not lie in sex alone, rather a multi faceted approach, which includes increased communication, affection and effort to do whatever it takes to make the other person happy. The couple claims that they achieved all of these through sex. I just fail to see how. While I’m sure that my hubby would love the idea of increased sex, it would not be the only route to achieving marital bliss.