5 Reasons Why Courtship is Important

Growing up during the time when courtship was still widely practiced then also seeing how a conservative culture embrace dating as a substitute for it, provided a means for me to compare the two methods in entering a relationship.

Like most processes, these two have pros and cons but I’d to focus on why I think courtship is weighs more than dating per se.

My Top Five Reasons are:

Reason #1
It helps establish respect.

I’m not just referring to the respect shown due to propriety or out of politeness but real the respect you’d give someone who worked hard to earn it. If the whole process of courtship is done in a careful and thorough manner, then one’s true character will shine through giving the other person a chance to judge them fairly. Again, this is possible if the courtship wasn’t done in haste.

Reason #2
It can be a period when expectations are set.

In every courtship, proper communication should be present. I’m talking about conversations not focused on wishful thinking and grand plans if one would win the hand of the other but conversations filled with ways to better the looming relationship esp towards the sealing of the commitment. It’s an opportunity to gauge the needs of each partner.

Reason #3
Savour the romance.

Of course, romance will be present during this period. It’s the chance for the men to make the women they are courting feel special even if the agenda is to get them to agree to having an exclusive relationship. Flowers, gifts, and attention will be showered upon the lady. It may not be the norm once committed to a relationship but memories of such romantic time can be looked back upon, remembering the time they were wooed.

Reason #4
Affections can be dealt with rationally.

In conjunction with Reason #2, with proper communication means rational thought (hopefully). Though affections are normally felt, seen or experienced, it’s best to talk about them, too. Finding reason in all the emotions may take out all the romance but it’s a wise way to go about them, esp if we’re talking about sorting through confused feelings and such. Some individuals need this to properly address a a concern and preempt a looming problem.

Reason #5
A chance to pursue and be pursued.

Experiencing that you’ve laboured in winning the girl’s hand is something you can relish upon. Men, after all, loves the chase, right? For women, knowing that the guy went in great lengths to have them is a great feeling. It makes the men value the relationship more since they worked hard just to get it. The women will feel more secure in the knowledge that the guy indeed wants them cuz they did all the work just to get there.

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With that said, I do find courtship more favourable between the two methods. I’m not discounting the advantages of dating but I simply find it a healthier way to go about entering a relationship. Though, I am interested in knowing your thoughts on the matter. Which of the two do you think is best for you? What are the disadvantages of courtship do you wish us to look at? What does dating do that courtship doesn’t?