A Brief Sigh Of Relief
January 5, 2009 by Shawnee Rivers
Filed under Parenting
I have the house to myself for a few hours — finally! I love my family and the holidays are fun, but…
The kids needed to go back to school; as my new TwitterMom pal, Sarah, wrote, “You GO girls! No..really.”
In the case of my son who is “primarily placed” with his father, the sigh still exists but is more mixed. On the one hand, I want him here always (of course, he’d still go to school, allowing me time to focus on work and have some alone time). But on the other, visitation times are always fraught with extra stress.
It’s not “just” being divorced, but being divorced because of domestic violence which makes visitation times so much more stressful. My ex, the abuser, is like most abusers, using the child as a pawn to control you because that’s the only way he can still affect & hurt you. He makes things as difficult as possible, something I’ll go into more detail about later; but for now, I just want to take a moment and sigh that all the holiday kinsanity is on pause, if not at it’s end.
