A Fake Marriage?
August 20, 2008 by Marc Audet
Filed under Relationships
I may just be rambling today.
I was doing some word searches today and of the 35000+ internet searches in August on marriage, over 10% of them had to do with Fake Marriage Certificates / Licenses in three different word arrangements.
So how do you certify that your marriage is fake? Why do you want a license for a marriage that isn’t really a marriage? Or is it to avoid that nagging question, “So when are you gonna get married?“
On the serious side, I guess someone might want a marriage certificate if their employer doesn’t give insurance benefits for a pregnant girlfriend. Maybe they have been together for years but marriage isn’t for them. It might close them in, or restrict them. I also have heard that if a military person wanted to increase their income they could have a fake marriage.
It would really pay off during a deployment.
Then another question arises, “Aren’t there enough marriages that seem fake?”
Like the ones in Hollywood. If their next co-star is great in that love scene they could just get a fake divorce and spare us all the tabloid reports in the grocery check-out aisles. Then get another fake marriage license.
Nope. Sorry, that won’t stop the tabloids from their attention getting headlines. You know, the ones that are a little less accurate then your biased local city’s newspapers and national press. It would cost those Hollywood stars and other “celebrities” a lot of money.
Or, perhaps you need that “Fake” marriage certificate for your sweet old aunt, who might write you out of her will if she knew you were “living in sin”. Maybe.
Or perhaps to give your spouse a wake-up call in his Happy Anniversary card. He had better get his act together so he doesn’t end up one of those “very real” divorce statistics.
Still, after running these ideas through my mind, I can’t come up with a good reason for a “Fake” marriage certificate. Personally, I can’t imagine that a fake marriage could compare with the very real marriage to Marye. Nothing fake can compare to the “real thing.”
In a real marriage that might mean they would have to work at building a marriage relationship. They would have to work through some of the trials “real” married couples have to work through, when sometimes the marriage license, or the covenant before God and man, is only thing holding that “real” marriage together.
Lastly and least seriously, perhaps this post was brought to you courtesy of 175 mcg/hr of Fentanyl and 4 mg of Hydromorphone, to ease my pain, and you have the good pleasure of reading this prescription drug induced post for entertainment value. Na-a-a-h!
Blessings,
*** Have a blessed day and enjoy your “real” married relationship and all the great perks that come along with your “real marriage license.”
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In my opinion, it’s not that the couple cannot truly commit to one another. If an older couple, i.e., retired on a fixed income, want to be together and commit to one another before God, family and friends but say for example one is a widow and receiving survivor benefits, unfortunately, the individual will lose those benefits upon marriage. With the understanding they are both on a fixed income and with the economy and the price of gas and everything else along with it rapidly increasing, it is truly understandable why they would not want to “make it official”.
Isn’t the marriage commitment between the couple and God not our government? Man made the piece of paper due to taxes, insurance etc. Once again the government is in our pockets.
However, if the couple marry and neither are receiving funds mentioned above then I too don’t understand why they truly cannot make it official.
Tricia
Tricia,
Thanks for the insight on the more mature couples.
I was referring to mostly the younger couples, 60 and under. You shed excellent light in that they would suffer financially if they did officially marry.
I don’t know if any of these couples have ever married, but in my 25 years in jewelry sales I have always enjoyed working with the the older kids getting engaged. The companionship and love they display when I have visited with them. And it seems to even grow more as time goes by. I would generally speaking work with work with about 5 or six of these widowed couples each year. And they have been great customers whether I just serviced their jewelry in the future or a good percentage became customers who made repeat purchases on a regular basis after the engagement ring purchase.
Some, a few of them I can remember in recent years have never married and I hold nothing against them for not marrying. I pass no judgment on them for not marrying. I never get that intimate with them unless they come in and chat with me because I have befriended them as an individual, and need to talk to someone who will listen and talk freely with them if they want response. Sometimes they might just need someone outside who they trust, to just listen. in those cases , I would listen and occasionally bring out a piece of jewelry. I would tell them I needed to make it look like we were not just talking and taking me away from my busy work.
I probably have said too much, or at least rambled on.
I hope you continue to return & read about our adventure in our marriage and other subjects that come up like the “fake” marriage post.
Blessings,
Marc
I personally don’t belive a pice of paper should determine if a couple is legally married ,besides marrige is between two people who love each other not the goverment.and what about child support,if either of the couple have any outstanding child support issues the spouse could lose his/her tax refunds every year until
its paid off,why the hell would anyone want to give up thier funds to pay someone else’ bills when they have thier own children to care for????
Miss Keep My Money…well I suppose it has to do with your religious convictions as well as other issues. I will say though that if someone I was considering being with had outstanding child support issues they would not be moving in with me, or even dating me until those issues were resolved for sure!
I have found that people who have certain issues in one relationship bring those issues to the next one.
“Miss Keep My Money, It does seem like you may have some other problems and issues. Of course that is only an opinion. If that is an issue or concern than what does love have to do with it?
As long as you can fall in and out of it without any sort of commitment to, for or with you other half.
Of course if the child support is and has been current, there is and wouldn’t be any validity to your point. Governments don’t garnish wages unless it is a deadbeat dad situation and then some of them seem to be able to avoid paying anyway.
Not someone I would think you would want to be with.