I hope the new Middle school has a speech therapist assigned to it. Will know in Aug and if not than state complaint will be filed.

We’ve luckily found a young woman in our price range, with great references, who has experience watching a child with unspecified developmental delays, whose mother is a special-ed aide who works with autistic kids, and who seems sweet and even-keeled. We are keeping our fingers crossed that things will work out. Unfortunately, not working is no longer an option for me – those pesky student loans insist on being paid!

The afterschool thing is tough. We negotiated with our university’s afterschool program to have Eleanor attend with a shadow, but in general around here there are few programs like that after 5th grade (some of the afterschool need driven by the state law on age of unsupervised minors). It was a long work in progress to get that program started even for the NT kids, and lots of negotiation and fundraising for a special bus to pick up the kids at their school sites. So it was doable, but not quick or easy. The justifications had to do with productivity for staff and faculty with children, etc.
As a model of a beyond elementary age, I might suggest taking a look at FEAT of Washington’s website. I believe that that is a relatively new program. I’m on the west coast, but not in Seattle, so I don’t know how that is working out in real-life.