A Useful Tool
March 30, 2009 by Michelle Smith
Filed under Relationships
There was a comment on my post of the other day that implied that people on online dating sites are misleading with their looks, information, etc.
Yes, that can happen, but online personal ads are just another tool, as I’ve said time and again. They are another step on the path to romance – not the destination. People put too much pressure on a system that does not profess to be perfect. Okay, well there is that Perfect Match…….Perfect? Really?? What were those people thinking of with that name? How about, A Pretty Darn Good Match? Isn’t that more realistic?
Cherie Burbach, author of Internet Dating Is Not Like Ordering A Pizza, commented on the post, as well. She believes in the usefulness of online dating/personals as a tooland has written an entire guide for people interested in using the various services. It’s advice that works. She knows this, because it worked for HER. 
Cherie met her husband online and it was after a lot of dates. She just kept weeding through until she found a man who fit well.
So, yeah, it can work, but most of the time it feels like it doesn’t. Nothing good ever came easy.
I found a new online dating service. It’s called A Fine Romance and it’s a free service. I did a quick check and the closest city to me, Sacramento, only had one person listed – a lady in her 20s – but these new sites will grow. The listings for San Francisco numbered 3. That’s a little better. The front page has people listed all over the world, Morocco, Spain, UK, Ukraine. Might be worth a try. It’s just a tool, remember that. Perhaps, it’s best to think of online dating as just another question and not the answer?
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You said a mouthful! Internet dating is a tool. You still have to do the hard work of getting to know people face to face. The perfect guy or girl doesn’t get delivered to your inbox.
From my experience, the majority of guys online DO want a relationship. EVERY single guy I met for coffee wanted that. They didn’t misrepresent themselves. In fact, I only had one guy that put up a picture that didn’t look like himself. (He had gained quite a bit of weight and used an old picture because he was embarrassed. Goes to show you guys are sensitive about that stuff, too.
Thanks, Cherie.