Comments on: A Visit to an Old Friend; a New Study on Childcare http://www.blisstree.com/articles/a-visit-to-an-old-friend-a-new-study-on-childcare/ Family, Health, Home and Lifestyles Wed, 23 Dec 2009 03:39:10 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Just a Few Pages But It’s A Start http://www.blisstree.com/articles/a-visit-to-an-old-friend-a-new-study-on-childcare/comment-page-1/#comment-556925 Just a Few Pages But It’s A Start Wed, 09 Jul 2008 21:01:22 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/a-visit-to-an-old-friend-a-new-study-on-childcare/#comment-556925 [...] couple of laps, at my encouraging) and an early dinner, I took out The Giant Ball of String, which my friend had given to Charlie. He sat for a page and was off—-I waited a while, got up, sat back down [...] [...] couple of laps, at my encouraging) and an early dinner, I took out The Giant Ball of String, which my friend had given to Charlie. He sat for a page and was off—-I waited a while, got up, sat back down [...]

]]> By: Kristina Chew, PhD http://www.blisstree.com/articles/a-visit-to-an-old-friend-a-new-study-on-childcare/comment-page-1/#comment-550063 Kristina Chew, PhD Wed, 09 Jul 2008 01:04:32 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/a-visit-to-an-old-friend-a-new-study-on-childcare/#comment-550063 <i>Plus ça change, plus c'est la même chose.</i> Plus ça change, plus c’est la même chose.

]]> By: Club 166 http://www.blisstree.com/articles/a-visit-to-an-old-friend-a-new-study-on-childcare/comment-page-1/#comment-550103 Club 166 Wed, 09 Jul 2008 00:59:01 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/a-visit-to-an-old-friend-a-new-study-on-childcare/#comment-550103 Farmwifetwo, Unfortunately (for us that live in more urban areas) it isn't just rural dwellers that are assumed to be ignorant when it comes to autism. We get treated the same way, graduate degrees and all. Joe Farmwifetwo,

Unfortunately (for us that live in more urban areas) it isn’t just rural dwellers that are assumed to be ignorant when it comes to autism. We get treated the same way, graduate degrees and all.

Joe

]]> By: Rhonda http://www.blisstree.com/articles/a-visit-to-an-old-friend-a-new-study-on-childcare/comment-page-1/#comment-552542 Rhonda Tue, 08 Jul 2008 16:38:32 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/a-visit-to-an-old-friend-a-new-study-on-childcare/#comment-552542 We had intended for my husband, the musician and delivery driver, to become the stay-at-home parent. Alana's autism dictated differently, and we have adjusted to the huge hit in our income (way more than 14%) by shopping at thrift stores, finding free events, and just chilling out about life's luxuries - you really DON"T need them! I wouldn't trade a minute home with Alana for all the luxuries we miss, and she's happier w/ me here as well. If school becomes an option (at this point they have no idea what to do w/ her and we are in discussions - read mediation - after they restrained her in my presence and we pulled her out of the school last September), then perhaps I will return to school. At this point I'm using the stay at home time when she is in therapy to get my BCBA certification through on-line classes, so maybe there will be some financial relief down the road... We had intended for my husband, the musician and delivery driver, to become the stay-at-home parent. Alana’s autism dictated differently, and we have adjusted to the huge hit in our income (way more than 14%) by shopping at thrift stores, finding free events, and just chilling out about life’s luxuries – you really DON”T need them! I wouldn’t trade a minute home with Alana for all the luxuries we miss, and she’s happier w/ me here as well.

If school becomes an option (at this point they have no idea what to do w/ her and we are in discussions – read mediation – after they restrained her in my presence and we pulled her out of the school last September), then perhaps I will return to school. At this point I’m using the stay at home time when she is in therapy to get my BCBA certification through on-line classes, so maybe there will be some financial relief down the road…

]]> By: Maddy http://www.blisstree.com/articles/a-visit-to-an-old-friend-a-new-study-on-childcare/comment-page-1/#comment-550123 Maddy Tue, 08 Jul 2008 15:06:45 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/a-visit-to-an-old-friend-a-new-study-on-childcare/#comment-550123 26 years ago I worked full time with one child. In my youthful enthusiasm I consumed all the feminist literature and was convinced that my own daughter and her generation would have far more choices. Now I'm with the next generation there doesn't appear to be much more choice for anyone. Best wishes 26 years ago I worked full time with one child. In my youthful enthusiasm I consumed all the feminist literature and was convinced that my own daughter and her generation would have far more choices.

Now I’m with the next generation there doesn’t appear to be much more choice for anyone.
Best wishes

]]> By: Chuck http://www.blisstree.com/articles/a-visit-to-an-old-friend-a-new-study-on-childcare/comment-page-1/#comment-560177 Chuck Tue, 08 Jul 2008 13:34:52 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/a-visit-to-an-old-friend-a-new-study-on-childcare/#comment-560177 I have so BTDT with putting my career on hold due to daycare issues. It made more sense for me to do it because I could recoup the lost salary potential quicker with my professional experiences then my wife could. I have so BTDT with putting my career on hold due to daycare issues. It made more sense for me to do it because I could recoup the lost salary potential quicker with my professional experiences then my wife could.

]]> By: Rebecca http://www.blisstree.com/articles/a-visit-to-an-old-friend-a-new-study-on-childcare/comment-page-1/#comment-560176 Rebecca Tue, 08 Jul 2008 13:33:03 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/a-visit-to-an-old-friend-a-new-study-on-childcare/#comment-560176 " we've managed because we had to" . . . truer words were never spoken And in this family Jeff (dad) works 60 hr wks at both a full and PT job so I can stay at home with L and K during the week day. Then I work at night and weekends. Sometimes he feels overwhelmed by the needs of the boys, he loves them but doesn't have the same confidence I have with them. So working is his way of providing so I can stay at home. My career wouldn't even touch his salary if things were reversed. ” we’ve managed because we had to” . . .

truer words were never spoken

And in this family Jeff (dad) works 60 hr wks at both a full and PT job so I can stay at home with L and K during the week day. Then I work at night and weekends. Sometimes he feels overwhelmed by the needs of the boys, he loves them but doesn’t have the same confidence I have with them. So working is his way of providing so I can stay at home. My career wouldn’t even touch his salary if things were reversed.

]]> By: farmwifetwo http://www.blisstree.com/articles/a-visit-to-an-old-friend-a-new-study-on-childcare/comment-page-1/#comment-551883 farmwifetwo Tue, 08 Jul 2008 12:23:59 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/a-visit-to-an-old-friend-a-new-study-on-childcare/#comment-551883 I have no doubt that a child with a disability lowers your take home income considerably. But at the same time... you opted to have children, and there's a cost to having them. One I don't regret. I don't regret not having a house full of "stuff". Besides I'm cheap and not a fan of clutter. The library is my best friend. Why I detest is the assumption that living in a rural community, as a SAHM, with a job (and his committees he's on) my Dh loves, next door the inlaws instead of back in the 'big city' where we moved from.... is the school's/ABA's assumption that we are uneducated white trash - the PDD teacher (consult's at the schools) and I had that "go round" last fall. And how would I know anything about autism since I'm not a "professional" nor a "teacher". As I look at my BSc(Eng) (engineering) ring. S. I have no doubt that a child with a disability lowers your take home income considerably. But at the same time… you opted to have children, and there’s a cost to having them. One I don’t regret. I don’t regret not having a house full of “stuff”. Besides I’m cheap and not a fan of clutter. The library is my best friend.

Why I detest is the assumption that living in a rural community, as a SAHM, with a job (and his committees he’s on) my Dh loves, next door the inlaws instead of back in the ‘big city’ where we moved from…. is the school’s/ABA’s assumption that we are uneducated white trash – the PDD teacher (consult’s at the schools) and I had that “go round” last fall. And how would I know anything about autism since I’m not a “professional” nor a “teacher”. As I look at my BSc(Eng) (engineering) ring.

S.

]]> By: Bonnie http://www.blisstree.com/articles/a-visit-to-an-old-friend-a-new-study-on-childcare/comment-page-1/#comment-551041 Bonnie Tue, 08 Jul 2008 10:41:46 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/a-visit-to-an-old-friend-a-new-study-on-childcare/#comment-551041 Kristina, I can relate much to your entry. When Casey was born I had a full time job and after having him and went back to it for several months while he was a small infant in the care of a very kind woman with a wonderful home I lucked into finding. But around 9months, right before we discovered for sure he had Autism, I begged my hubby to let me go part-time so I could stay home with him. Mother sixth sense I guess? But it wall worked out and thank God since Early Intervention sorts of things took over. I just recently have gone back full time, and that in itself this summer has been crazy, even though he's almost 10. I am grateful for the day camp for kids with disabilities, but wish something like it was available for everyone who needed it, all the time, and at a more affordable rate. Kristina, I can relate much to your entry. When Casey was born I had a full time job and after having him and went back to it for several months while he was a small infant in the care of a very kind woman with a wonderful home I lucked into finding. But around 9months, right before we discovered for sure he had Autism, I begged my hubby to let me go part-time so I could stay home with him. Mother sixth sense I guess? But it wall worked out and thank God since Early Intervention sorts of things took over. I just recently have gone back full time, and that in itself this summer has been crazy, even though he’s almost 10. I am grateful for the day camp for kids with disabilities, but wish something like it was available for everyone who needed it, all the time, and at a more affordable rate.

]]> By: Club 166 http://www.blisstree.com/articles/a-visit-to-an-old-friend-a-new-study-on-childcare/comment-page-1/#comment-551011 Club 166 Tue, 08 Jul 2008 10:38:45 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/a-visit-to-an-old-friend-a-new-study-on-childcare/#comment-551011 <b><i>... In another population-based study, fathers of children with autism were less likely to report full-time employment compared with other fathers and were more likely to work part time. A possible explanation is that the burden of autism on the family economy is mediated by different employment choices made by caregivers in response to inadequate community resources. ...</b></i> Although I agree that that is one possibility, another is that fathers of autistic children may be more likely to be autistic themselves, and thus be more likely to have trouble securing and maintaining full time employment. Joe … In another population-based study, fathers of children with autism were less likely to report full-time employment compared with other fathers and were more likely to work part time. A possible explanation is that the burden of autism on the family economy is mediated by different employment choices made by caregivers in response to inadequate community resources. …

Although I agree that that is one possibility, another is that fathers of autistic children may be more likely to be autistic themselves, and thus be more likely to have trouble securing and maintaining full time employment.

Joe

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