Afterplay – As Important As Foreplay

Dr. Ruth Westheimer, Ph.D., has a new book out. It’s called “Top Ten Secrets for Great Sex: How to Enjoy It, Share It, and Love It Each and Every Time.” 

In the book, she mentions the importance of afterplay.  “Afterplay” is that time after orgasm, sometimes known as “after-glow.”  If handled correctly, afterplay actually works as a part of foreplay for the next encounter.

It’s particularly important for both men and women to realize that the curve of sexual arousal after orgasm is a much slower one for women than for men. That’s why it’s so important for women to teach their partners that they need to be caressed, held and talked to after they have orgasm. This kind of afterplay is so important that it will actually be the foreplay for the next sexual encounter. When men say it’s physiological that they have to go to sleep right after sexual intercourse, that’s nonsense. That’s just being sexually illiterate. They have to be taught that important aspect of the sexual encounter.

For some reason, the whole idea of cuddling afterward has turned into some kind of joke, which is unfortunate since it turns out that is actually essential to an ongoing successful sexual relationship.

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