All’s Fair in Love and …..
November 3, 2008 by Marye Audet
Filed under Relationships
Sex?
A Woman’s Health Report has recently found that there are a great number of women that simply do not care that a man is in a committed relationship. In fact according ot some of the women that made the man more enticing because they did not need to worry about the relationship getting more serious.
And the women weren’t just sleeping with the guys whose mates they didn’t know…Yep, according to this study it is all about Desperate Housewives.
Every woman for herself and if the package looks appealing then it doesn’t matter whose name is on the gift tag.
Wow.
Now, I am so NOT saying that men have no responsibility here. If a woman comes on to Marc he had better retreat to the safety of the marital zone really quick…or face instant and unrelenting violence. But in that, it used to be that you could at least trust your friends to leave your hubs alone.
I realize that there is a lot of controversy over whether married men and women can be friends with members of the opposite sex. It just seems to be that it is a little naive to think that a man and woman (unmarried ) can spend large amounts of time together, share their thoughts and feelings with each other, and not end up with some sort of emotional ties that “could” lead to something more. After all..it is easy to be on your best behavior with a friend. And people on their best behavior are much more appealing than people (of either sex) with PMS.
If I see a queen bee about to move in on my territory I slide in quick, grab his arm, and stay very close, all smiles and sweetness on the face and daggers of poison in the eyes. Generally this is respected…. if not I go the next step. Intimidation. That always works.And I am darn good at it.
The funniest thing is that Marc never even sees or notices when it happens. He is totally oblivious.
Anyway…Ladies, do you do take any steps to add a bit of protective covering to your husband?
Men, what is your response when you are approached? I think it is funny that many men don’t seem to GET that someone is hitting up on them.
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Well, I shocked my daughter one day, when another girl kept making passes at my daughter’s boyfriend. I told her to go to where they work (all three worked in the same place at that time) and “pee on every bush in the place”. LOL!! She didn’t get what I meant at first, but everyone else in my family did!
DH was hit on and flirted with for at least a year, when he was working in an office – he insisted this woman wasn’t interested in him. She was. Later after he left that place of employment, a friend who still worked there, told him. FINALLY he believed. LOL!
I am like you. I stake my claim VERY clearly. I see no reason to let some other woman think I’m not gonna fight for my man.
Oh Heather.. you crack me up…you go, girl..
Yes, some of us men can be clueless. I’m not married yet, but I have had that startling, after-the-fact realization that a girl was into me. Of course, it only occurred after she moved away. I was so very clueless!
Joe- maybe that is a blessing…sort of..Perhaps you guys would be more likely to respond if you weren’t clueless?
No, I don’t “stake my claim.” I guess I just find it amusing and interesting. I’m secure enough in my relationship that it will take a lot more than flirting to rock the boat.
Turn the argumnets upside down. What would YOUR spouse/signicant other do if someone was coming on to you? Mine would find it amusing interesting as well, so long as it wasn’t threatening or dangerous. Guess we’re both pretty secure in our relationship.
FInally – on the men and women friends post a few weeks ago…..
I can’t imagine how anyone out there that thinks that men and women cannot be friends can operate in the busniness world. Both of us work and travel with members of the opposite sex all the time. Seperate car or plane arrangements? Right ok…..yep get over it….the real world doesn’t cater to thoses fears.
Trust your mate – if not trustworthy – move on – you deserve better. And yes, it is that black and white.
Andrea, how long have you been married…just out of curiosity.
I have been married for 23 years. Two kids ages 16 and 13.
That is awesome Andrea! I am glad that everything works for you that way.