Comments on: An Evening Swim at the Y http://www.blisstree.com/articles/an-evening-swim-at-the-y/ Family, Health, Home and Lifestyles Fri, 25 Dec 2009 18:08:03 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Marla http://www.blisstree.com/articles/an-evening-swim-at-the-y/comment-page-1/#comment-562649 Marla Sat, 06 Dec 2008 21:21:32 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/an-evening-swim-at-the-y/#comment-562649 This is very interesting to me because I have a much easier time talking to children than adults about M and Autism or chromosome disorder. I find that chidlren up until the age of about thirteen seem to be way more understanding and open to learning. Where adults are always thinking things about the cause and asking me questions about how I cared for M as an infant, like was she breast fed or did she eat gluten. Those questions frustrate me because I feel like they come from a place of blame. Children on the other hand are asking from a place of total curiosity. I have found that give the opportunity children will ask some of the most profound questions or comments. I have of course had a few children that were not very kind and behaved more like little rude adults. This is very interesting to me because I have a much easier time talking to children than adults about M and Autism or chromosome disorder. I find that chidlren up until the age of about thirteen seem to be way more understanding and open to learning. Where adults are always thinking things about the cause and asking me questions about how I cared for M as an infant, like was she breast fed or did she eat gluten. Those questions frustrate me because I feel like they come from a place of blame. Children on the other hand are asking from a place of total curiosity. I have found that give the opportunity children will ask some of the most profound questions or comments. I have of course had a few children that were not very kind and behaved more like little rude adults.

]]> By: Kristina Chew, PhD http://www.blisstree.com/articles/an-evening-swim-at-the-y/comment-page-1/#comment-563638 Kristina Chew, PhD Sat, 06 Dec 2008 05:49:57 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/an-evening-swim-at-the-y/#comment-563638 Thank you for more suggestions----my latest tactic (such as it is) is to be fairly minimal---to say a few carefully chosen words rather than any kind of long-winded explanation (esp. to kids; to anyone, really). great to hear from you Laura----hope all's well---- Thank you for more suggestions—-my latest tactic (such as it is) is to be fairly minimal—to say a few carefully chosen words rather than any kind of long-winded explanation (esp. to kids; to anyone, really).

great to hear from you Laura—-hope all’s well—-

]]> By: siliconmom http://www.blisstree.com/articles/an-evening-swim-at-the-y/comment-page-1/#comment-564582 siliconmom Fri, 05 Dec 2008 18:51:43 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/an-evening-swim-at-the-y/#comment-564582 Especially when your child is engaged in a behavior that an NT kid knows they wouldn't be allowed to get away with - like taking off clothing, running around in circles or being overly loud in the store. I always feel like, as I'm trying to handle the situation, that these kids are thinking "Yeah, right" when I try to explain why my kid is doing what they're doing. Especially when your child is engaged in a behavior that an NT kid knows they wouldn’t be allowed to get away with – like taking off clothing, running around in circles or being overly loud in the store. I always feel like, as I’m trying to handle the situation, that these kids are thinking “Yeah, right” when I try to explain why my kid is doing what they’re doing.

]]> By: ASDmomNC http://www.blisstree.com/articles/an-evening-swim-at-the-y/comment-page-1/#comment-562513 ASDmomNC Fri, 05 Dec 2008 18:21:00 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/an-evening-swim-at-the-y/#comment-562513 Ugh, I hate having to answer that question. I never know exactly what to say. Ugh, I hate having to answer that question. I never know exactly what to say.

]]> By: Linda http://www.blisstree.com/articles/an-evening-swim-at-the-y/comment-page-1/#comment-564580 Linda Fri, 05 Dec 2008 18:12:09 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/an-evening-swim-at-the-y/#comment-564580 Those boys learned more about autism in that encounter than in any other more artificial and abstract way. Telling the truth to kids in as succinct and honest fashion at possible is most effective. An unintended and effective teaching moment. Those boys learned more about autism in that encounter than in any other more artificial and abstract way.
Telling the truth to kids in as succinct and honest fashion at possible is most effective.
An unintended and effective teaching moment.

]]> By: Laura Cottington http://www.blisstree.com/articles/an-evening-swim-at-the-y/comment-page-1/#comment-564578 Laura Cottington Fri, 05 Dec 2008 18:01:24 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/an-evening-swim-at-the-y/#comment-564578 Oh my...it has been waaay too long since I have been able to stop by and read. I must admit that I was elated to see you writing about Charlie though! Will need to make it a habit to stop by more. I too agree, that explaining it to children is different for me. Sometimes I use sitations the typical child can relate to, and explain it in a way that lets the child know that my children feel that way more often though (example: started at loud noise when you don't expect it, and our boys are startled at almost everything and rarely expect it.) I also am very clear to explain how we are all so very unique in the way our brains work (again giving an example). Great to read about Charlie...I will be by more frequently! ~Laura Oh my…it has been waaay too long since I have been able to stop by and read. I must admit that I was elated to see you writing about Charlie though! Will need to make it a habit to stop by more.

I too agree, that explaining it to children is different for me. Sometimes I use sitations the typical child can relate to, and explain it in a way that lets the child know that my children feel that way more often though (example: started at loud noise when you don’t expect it, and our boys are startled at almost everything and rarely expect it.) I also am very clear to explain how we are all so very unique in the way our brains work (again giving an example).

Great to read about Charlie…I will be by more frequently!
~Laura

]]> By: matt http://www.blisstree.com/articles/an-evening-swim-at-the-y/comment-page-1/#comment-564574 matt Fri, 05 Dec 2008 17:12:14 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/an-evening-swim-at-the-y/#comment-564574 I have a hard time explaining it as well; especially when someone catches me repeating a word over and over or popping my knuckles incessantly, or sitting off by myself in a crowded room. I have a hard time explaining it as well; especially when someone catches me repeating a word over and over or popping my knuckles incessantly, or sitting off by myself in a crowded room.

]]> By: siliconmom http://www.blisstree.com/articles/an-evening-swim-at-the-y/comment-page-1/#comment-564576 siliconmom Fri, 05 Dec 2008 16:53:30 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/an-evening-swim-at-the-y/#comment-564576 I have a hard time explaining it as well to my kids peers. I usually say it's something they were born with and they have a hard time knowing how to play and talk with other people so they have to take special classes to learn how to do that. They think differently is how I usually end. I have a hard time explaining it as well to my kids peers. I usually say it’s something they were born with and they have a hard time knowing how to play and talk with other people so they have to take special classes to learn how to do that. They think differently is how I usually end.

]]> By: Rose http://www.blisstree.com/articles/an-evening-swim-at-the-y/comment-page-1/#comment-562498 Rose Fri, 05 Dec 2008 15:57:05 +0000 http://www.autismvox.com/an-evening-swim-at-the-y/#comment-562498 Seems like you said just enough. Seems like you said just enough.

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