Analytically Speaking…

Have you guys figured out that Marc and I are very, very different? It would not take a genius I.Q. to do so, for sure.

Between talking to Marc and reading comments I want to address the issue of being analytical because sometimes it can be important.  I realize that it can be overdone..I  mean I am the Queen at being overly analytical…but like anything else, it has a function.

First, put on safety gear and goggles because I am going to take you on an intimate journey into my thought process.  Don’t get scared, and keep your hands and feet in the car.  Also, do not feed the animals.

Ready?

When I eat something? I taste it in pieces and parts.  There is no such thing as good or bad to me in food.  Salty, sweet, tangy, spicy? Fruity, herby, bitter in a good way, bitter in a bad way?  A Hershey bar is waxy and dry, with a chemical aftertaste that eclipses the chocolate flavor.  The Kohler Chocolate I reviewed on Baking Delights a few weeks ago was smooth and sweet with deep chocolate notes and a buttery mouth feel.  The Hershey’s is not worth the calories to me.  I never just get hungry.  I either want what I am eating or I don’t eat.  I can literally reproduce a recipe by taste.  And if you are thinking negative things when you are cooking those thoughts will be in the food and it will taste bad.

Touch is like that to me.  There is no such thing as just touch.  There is the way Marc touches me when he is distracted but trying to give me what I need.  There is the way he touches me when he is angry with me, or when he is insecure and worried that I will reject him in some way… What you are thinking when you touch someone like me, who is very sensual, is downloaded into your skin and into your touch.

But analysis is important sometimes.  You need to know why you feel the way you do about things.  You need to know why you get angry at certain things, and why you respond certain ways.  If you don;t know these things you won’t know yourself and you will not be able to be in control of your life.  For example..I know that I tend to get panic attacks at stop lights.  I know why.  So now, when I am at a stop light and I feel the breathlessness start I can say, “Marye, this is happening because of the time xyz… It isn’t a valid response now, you are o.k. Everything is o.k.”  and I can calm myself down.  If I didn’t know what caused it I could easily go into a full blown attack.

I also know what comforts me, what energizes me, and what my needs are. I can tell people what I need and how I need it.  They don’t always respond but at least I have done something proactive for me.

Analyzing things within reason can help you to have a more fulfilling life at work, at home, in the bedroom. Seriously.  Most people who aren’t sensual also aren’t analytical.  And being sensual can increase your response to touch, intimacy, and even eating.  My guess is that it is often non-sensual people who overeat.  It is food.  It is good and they eat it or it is bad and they don’t.

Are you analytical? Sensual?  Or realistic and practical?  I have some exercises that you can do to be a bit more in tune with yourself that I am going to post a little later…   We are also going to do a give away of the A Private Affair Game, as well as a book review this week.

Happy Monday…stay tuned!

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