At first it seemed pretty neat. How eHarmony works, is they make you take a personality test, where they ask you tons of questions about yourself and what you are looking for. Then they match what you said with others of the opposite sex (or same sex if that’s what you’re into). Every morning, I would wake up, and there would be 10 new matches for me. Then I would go through them and decide if I wanted to initate contact with any of them based on their pics and profiles. The communication is guided…you have to follow their sets of questions and then when you’re done that, you switch to open communication where you can e-mail back and forth.

I actually didn’t mind this at all…it can be a little stressful to just come right out and start talking to a complete stranger.

What they don’t tell you is that anyone can create a profile, and then walk away from it and never subscribe to the service (which means you can’t communiacate). I had a male friend who signed up the same time I did and he left his account alone for 3 months before subscribing. So he was getting matches sent to him the entire time…these women would be attempting communication with him, and he would be doing nothing about it, Talk about a blow to the ego…to never have someone return your communications!

So despite the fact that my profile was great, my picture was amazing, I barely got any attention. I think I made to open communication with 4 men in 3 months, and only had 2 dates….and I wasn’t trying to be picky! It became very clear rather quickly that there were way more women on eHarmony than there were men. Which makes sense since it’s typically a place to look for relationships.

The whole experience was pretty crappy, I really didn’t enjoy it at all. I would not recommend it to my friends. Has anyone else ever tried it?

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My eHarmony Experience

They did a really great job at organizing it and making us interact with each other. It was all-in-all a pretty fun night. Though I left numberless, I would definitely try it again. I actually wish I had known about these events when I first moved here, I also go to mingle with some pretty cool women…it would have been great to know about, not necessarily to meet a significant other, but also to make friends. They also made it easy for people who were there on their own, so you don’t even need to convince someone to go with you.

If you ever get the chance to do it, I go ahead! If nothing else, it’s a pretty cheap way to kill some time!

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My Meet Market Adventures Experience

Photo taken from Amazon.com

It’s pretty standard practice and a widely known rule that you should wait at least 2 days before calling a guy (or girl for that matter). I was discussing it with a friend (Sherry) this morning, and I decided that I hate this rule. Up until my conversation with her, I was a big “rule” follower. I would pretty much dump a guy if he called too quick. I would roll my eyes at his desperation.

Sherry recently met a guy who she really liked and really wanted to ask him out. (Note, The Rules says never to aska  guy out). She had met him the night before, had his contact information, and really wanted to send him an e-mail. But she was concerned she was sending it too soon, so decided to wait another day. (Though she had the whole thing written and sent to me and her sister for approval).

Up until today, I would totally have told Sherry to wait another day, but then I thought about what I do when guys call too soon. Yes, I do sometimes get creeped out and think it’s just too much, but the times that I like a guy, I love it! I love not having to wait two days to find out if he’s going to call. I love not having to come up with excuses not to go to the locker room at the gym so that I can check my phone. I love knowing that yes, the guy is interested.

My advice to her (which she didn’t take) was to e-mail him then and there. If he was interested in her, he would respond. If he wasn’t, waiting an extra day to find out wouldn’t make a difference, it would only make her have to wait.

Do you think it matters when you call? Does it make a difference if the other person is interested anyway?

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Do You Wait Or Do You Call?

I had the chance to visit Austin for the first time this past March for SXSW Interactive. Since I’ve been back, I’ve been saying that it is the coolest city I’ve ever been to. If it was easy to get a work visa for the US, I’d have been there by now.

I can definately see why it would win out as a great dating city. One of the reasons the article said that Austin was great for dating is that more alcohol is purchased outside the home than any other city. It makes sense…less depressed people sitting at home drinking themselves silly; more people out and about letting their guard down and tipping back the liquid-courage.

Way to go Austin!

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Austin Is The Best City For Single Folk

I’ll start you off with a dating story. I always hate it when people say meeting someone will “happen when you least expect it”. I do agree with it, but at the same time, I wouldn’t pull down my Lavalife profile because of it. Then one of my friends was telling me a story about a guy she recently met…on Craigslist.

When I say she met him on Craigslist, I don’t mean in the personals section (Kevin over at PointlessBanter did a whole series on Craigslist Creep of the Week), I mean she put an ad on Craigslist to sell her sofa and met a man. Now, it wasn’t “Nice sofa, let’s hang out sometime”. She’s been working at it.

She started the story off my telling me that, via e-mail and by the sounds of his name, he seemed like he might have some potential. I knew I was in for a good story when she said that. So he showed up at the prearranged time (and she gussied herself up), and he was tall, dark AND handsome. He tried out the couch and said that if anyone else was interested to let him know.

The next day, she lied to him via e-mail, telling him that someone else had come by to look at the couch, just so that she could have an excuse to talk to him. A few e-mails later and they were scheduling a time  to meet up again…so she could look at his dining room set.

At the dining-room meet up, he offers her something to drink. Thinking she hit the jackpot, she said yes, and asked what he had. He answered water. Clearly an indication he was merely concerned with her level of hydration. It was even clearer still when he opened a fridge full of beer.

She told him she wasn’t sure about the table, and would think about it. Of course she is going to buy it, she needs more time with Couch Man! She arranged a time to meet up with him to pick up the couch, which is going to happen this week. I have advised her not to purchase anything else from him, no x-boxes or segas or whatever the kids are playing these days. I will update you with what happens when it does…and wish her luck!

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It’ll Happen When You Least Expect It