Comments on: Body Impolitic

By: Tracee Sioux

Tracee Sioux — Tue, 10 Jun 2008 20:09:52 +0000

Sable that’s profoundly insightful. I never thought of it like that, but I think you’re right.

My siblings used to call me buffalo butt and hippo hips and thunder thighs. When I have self deprecated I used almost the exact same language.

What I great insight.

By: that girl

that girl — Tue, 10 Jun 2008 18:30:19 +0000

deep.

By: Sable

Sable — Tue, 10 Jun 2008 17:44:31 +0000

I use to use self deprecating humor to mask my insecuriteies. Until I saw someone else do it and I could see it from a different standpoint. Underneath the joke is really someone elses opinion about you that you absoulety have to clear out of your conscienes and allow the real you to exist

By: goodbyetoallfat

goodbyetoallfat — Tue, 10 Jun 2008 00:09:50 +0000

Tracee

Small addendum — it’s not in my blog tonight (which is now just an update on my weight) but it is going to be in one of my next blogs very SOON because I still have some more words to blurb about the negative conditioning of my childhood.

I’ll let you know when it’s up as a post — it is definitely one of my “in the pipeline” posts !!

Best wishes,
Sharon

By: Tracee Sioux

Tracee Sioux — Mon, 09 Jun 2008 17:30:30 +0000

I’m so glad you found it helpful.

Many women take the criticism from their childhoods and apply it themselves. Basically, we become the mean and critical parent or sibling in our own heads with self-deprecation.

While there may be different degrees of this habit and different degrees of self-acceptance issues the one thing I know is that if you continue to self-deprecate you won’t be able to feel good about yourself. You can’t change how they treated you, but you have ultimate control over how YOU treat YOU.

Thanks so much for linking up. I appreciate your kind words.

By: goodbyetoallfat

goodbyetoallfat — Mon, 09 Jun 2008 13:52:42 +0000

Your article about “Body Image: No Name Calling” is superb — and unfortunately totally NOT the way I was brought up.

Which is why I now have huge issues (not just from mild self-deprecation – that would be fairly easy to deal with) but from serious, constant chipping away at my self worth and self image by my own family (mother, father, younger brother) while I was a child — which was ALLOWED (not encouraged, but just allowed) ….. and then bullying at school etc.

Only now, as I explore these issues in my own blog am I beginning to realise how much negative conditioning I received as a child (so much of it has been so well repressed by my memory banks).

I will be linking your blog / article in my own blog very very soon (possibly later tonight) as it relates *sooooo* precisely to things I have been writing about in my own blog (all the negative conditioning I received).

Many thanks,
Sharon