Breaking Up Is Not Inevitable

I read a piece from AOL Personals today about 5 of the biggest break-ups cues. I think if you are hearing some of these phrases from your partner, it’s possible that your relationship is heading toward a break-up, but it’s not inevitable.

For example, a request for space might mean just that – give your partner some space. No one wants to feel pressured or crowded. Back off, let your loved one miss you a little (this is advice that I give to my daughter’s boyfriend all the time.) 

Backing off can work two-fold. First, your partner gets the breathing room they have requested. Two, you can focus on what you want again. Sometimes we get so locked into the pursuit aspect that we lose perspective. Maybe the relationship isn’t going in the right direction for you, either.

If someone says that they will call you later, well they may be busy and unable to talk. Again, I suggest backing off. People are busy. It’s not all about you.

If your partner is comparing you to someone else or calling your bad names, then he/she is just rude. I say it might be time to move on. Or call them on it. Say, “That is hurtful.” You don’t have to put up with abuse. That’s not part of a healthy relationship.

Silence is not good. As my friend, Scarlet, told me during my last relationship, “No answer is your answer.”  I think she was quoting, He’s Just Not That Into You. She was correct. He was a two-timing jerk and I’ve happily moved on. 

My point is this – don’t make assumptions, don’t expect the worst. These are stressful times we are living in and everyone can use a breather now and again.

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