Bring On the Boredom Baby
April 20, 2009 by Michelle Smith
Filed under Relationships
Today, I ran into my friend, T. She is one of my good-girlfriends, but we’ve never socialized outside of work although she’s invited me to fun things like Halloween parties, the Rocky Horror Picture show, bingo…… yeah, bingo. (I got enough of that when I used to work Bingo years ago during my Spokane days). I’d love to go, but something is always going on with my kids and I can’t get away.
I told T that I have a new boyfriend. She wanted to know about him and where things were going – serious? casual? I wasn’t going to marry him, was I??
She has always been that way about marriage. I know a few married ladies who are like that. 
Safely within the arms of matrimony it’s easy to say, “Oh, I’d never do that again.”
How do they know and how do they have any clue what it’s like to carry the load of single motherhood for the past 17 years? They don’t.
Being independent, in charge of my own destiny, it’s been good, but sometimes, many times really, I’ve wished for another brain to help me make the tough decisions. I’ve wished for someone to sleep next to and share my life with. I’ve wished for a partner to hang out with on the couch. I want the normal stuff, the boring stuff.
Right now it’s all new and exciting and I love that part, the beginning where you tell all your stories and your head is full of thoughts of Boy, but I’m not afraid of that dimming a bit.
I’m ready, if this is The One, bring on the mundane, the day-to-day humdrum. I welcome it with open arms – I’m ready and willing.
Maybe it’s one of those grass is greener things?
Sooooo funny. You and I must be in the same stage of the relationship with our significant others.
I had this talk with my guy last night.
Things have calmed down on the whole “jumping into bed every time we see one another”. (Though.. I am NEVER opposed to that, but sleep seems really nice these days ) )
We have gotten to the …. “sleep in each others arms” and “talk until all hours of the night” (We still live in separate homes)
I am deep in the “This is the one”…. we are talking living together, marriage and forever after…
I understand what you mean about having another brain, another heart, another set of hands, another shoulder. I want to sit in the leather arm chairs next to him and talk about our days with the occasional “GO TO SLEEP”, yelled upstairs at one or more of the kids. I want to talk about my day with him while putting away dishes, laugh at his jokes and planning meals with his mother over the phone.
I want someone who will stroke back my hair when I am sick and tell me to go to be…because he’s “got this”.
Bring on the wedding plans, the off-white dress and tears.
Bring on the 10th year anniversary and watching his son learn to drive.
Bring on the nights where I can lean over and kiss his back while he snores.
I don’t ever want to have to do it again after this one….
But I’m willing to take the step again!
I’m with you… bring on the boredom!!
(SoOOOO happy that you found someone. It’s about time hon!)