Britney – Naked Mommy
September 19, 2007 by Tracee Sioux
Filed under Parenting
Oh Please. They’re going to take Britney’s kid away from her from walking around in front of the kids naked?
I don’t know a single mother who has any real privacy. Do you know how long it’s been since I took a crap by myself? Entirely alone? Without someone popping into the bathroom to ask where their other shoe was?
Zack still showers with me, I stopped letting Ainsley shower or bath with me when she was around 4. A friend of mine recently told me that all SIX of her children, two of them 10- and 11-year-old boys, came home and told her about all their problems while she was in the shower. Another of my friends has two school aged boys that see her naked all the time. None of these women are abusing their children.
They would all LOVE to have some privacy – but mothers often have no physical and emotional boundaries.
Let’s put this in a perspective of how truly physically intimate the mother-child relationship is. We carry the babies inside our bodies, nourishing them on a cellular level unparallelled. We push them out of our private and sexual parts. We hold them to our breasts and feed them with milk created by our bodies for the sole purpose of nourishing them. We have contact with their sexual organs many, many times a day wiping them clean and diapering them. We spend time focusing on their genitals and the performance of them while potty training. We even intentionally poop and pee in front of them to teach them how to do it.
And now there’s a “secret witness body guard” and Kevin Federline’s lawyers who are trying to sexualize and make inappropriate Britney being undressed in front of her one- and two-year-old boys?
HELL FREAKIN NO!
There is one relationship left on the planet which has not been entirely sexualized and that is the mother-child relationship. Could we please just leave it alone?
While we’re on the subject . . . Britney is simply an example of how the whore-madonna syndrome plays out in America.
Pre-motherhood Britney’s behavior was met with acceptance and approval. Her clothing, the bikini outfit, the blatant sexuality, the pole dancing images – all expected of her before she had babies. Pre-child she’s just playing out the culturally accepted role of “sexy pop star.”
It’s only now that she’s a mother that everyone is upset by all the blatant sexuality. Now the stripper pole looks seedy and trashy. Now that someone calls her Mommy the super-sexuality of her lyrics and dance moves and recreational drug use and public break-downs make us shake our head. It’s not so fun anymore when mommy is sexy.
It takes a while to adjust to being mommy. It takes some effort to understand the expectations for ideal womanhood and femininity have drastically changed with the birth of baby. No wonder she’s having breakdowns and shaving her head. Only two years ago she was a super-star for acting like the hot chick. Now that she’s a mama, we’re pretty uncomfortable with this kind of sexualized beauty.
It’s not just Britney, all women walk the whore-madonna line in one way or another. It’s difficult to make the shift in identity. Some women choose not to breastfeed because they can’t make the transition of their breasts’ purpose from sexual to maternal.
And if I hear one more person call her FAT! Are you kidding me? Seriously? If Britney’s the new definition of fat then the average normal-sized woman is morbidly obese.
Check out the post at Supernanny Rules for more on Britney’s mothering. Also for other naked mothers around the web check out b5′r Pascalle on Mommy Nakedness and The Truth About Naked Parents.
you’re right but u can bet your bottom dollar that when she was naked she was high on a cocktail of drugs.
i mean come on, her bodyguard was there. if you had a body guard would you get naked infront of him for the ‘completely appropriate nakedness with your kids’??!
also, its not her sexualness that offends me. Its the drug use & the breakdowns.
like you say above: “Now the stripper pole looks seedy and trashy. Now that someone calls her Mommy the super-sexuality of her lyrics and dance moves and recreational drug use and public break-downs make us shake our head. It’s not so fun anymore when mommy is sexy.”
– of course the drug use and breakdowns make us shake our heads, SHE’S A MOTHER!!!! what care are the children recieving when there mother is high and ‘out-of-it’?
i sense your a mother yourself, so do you think it it is good to use recreational drugs and have breakdowns with children around, without trying to get appropriate help?
To me, she doesnt want to change.
1. What if the bodyguard is a just a pervy peeping tom?
2. babies and toddlers see their mothers naked multiple times a day – it does not presuppose any kind of substance abuse.
3. Doing drugs is the not issue under discussion here.
4. The issue is sexualizing her appropriate physical intimacy with her children.
5. I’m saying maybe she didn’t get the memo that she had to immediately change her identity – from sexual to maternal – when she became a mother. It takes time to adjust. Her children are still very young.
okay…
1) “What if the bodyguard is a just a pervy peeping tom?” if this was true im sure he would have been arrested by now as his information is being examined in court.
2) “babies and toddlers see their mothers naked multiple times a day – it does not presuppose any kind of substance abuse.” not once have i said that cause she was naked in front of her kids it means she was on drugs. but this information has been disposed by her bodyguard. He has witnessed the drug abuse, nakedness etc and in court neither Britney or her lawyers have questionned him against this.
3) “Doing drugs is the not issue under discussion here.” this blog discusses that britneys children are being taken away from her and you’re suggesting that this is down to her nakedness; “Oh Please. They’re going to take Britney’s kid away from her from walking around in front of the kids naked?” I was merely adding that if they do take the kids its not just because she is naked, its because she abuses drugs and alcohol.
4) “The issue is sexualizing her appropriate physical intimacy with her children.” I agree, this shouldnt be sexualised if she was simply and innocently getting naked. but what if she was partying, taking drugs and then got naked?
5) “I’m saying maybe she didn’t get the memo that she had to immediately change her identity – from sexual to maternal – when she became a mother. It takes time to adjust. Her children are still very young.” many women find it hard, very true. especially as she is in the spotlight, but who starts using and abusing drugs and alcohol and puts their child at risk?
Totally agree with you about the naked issue. I used to take baths with my mother, and it was harmless bonding. Before the YMCA begin to allow females in the 60s, it was common for men and boys to swim nude in their pools. Swim trunks weren’t even allowed! Many schools had the same policy.
People have become too hypervigilant about nudity – it isn’t always sexual. Plus, I’d rather kids see Janet Jackson’s boob a hundred times than watch one sexually violent episode of Law and Order SVU.
I guess what I would like to say about Britney is that she’s not the one who changed. Our expectations of her changed when she became a mother.
By the way, Brit’s not fat. She’s just not a 16-year-old girl anymore. Get over it.
The whole “secret witness bodyguard” is just so much hooey. It’s a divorce court ploy, IMHO.
To call Britney fat, or even slightly overweight, defies reason.
but what if she was partying, taking drugs and then got naked?
* still not morally wrong to be naked.
“What if the bodyguard is a just a pervy peeping tom?” if this was true im sure he would have been arrested by now as his information is being examined in court.
* You mean like all those photographers with telephoto lenses taking pictures of her on her own private property? You mean like those guys (ie: pervy peeping toms) are arrested?
He isnt a photographer, he’s her previously employed bodyguard..employed by her…BRITNEY’s bodyguard. He’s been summoned to court to provide evidence to what he’s witnessed whilst being her “body guard” & the best thing about it is is the fact that the judge read out a statement of what Britneys had witnessed and neither her or her lawyers contested about it. Anyhow, back to the subject. I appreciate that lots of mommys & daddys get naked infront of their kids ( i do myself ) but what im saying is the ‘nakedness’ he has probably witnessed was more like the nakedness when you’re drunk or high whilst with the kids.
So the issue there is with her being drunk and high whilst holding custody of her children, therefore leaving those kids at risk, and surely its about the kids. Also id like to add about all the pics we see of her clubbing then, where are those children then? i bet other young mums wish they could go out as much as her, i know i sure do.
But anyway, what iv been trying to say is that i dont agree with the comment in your blog suggesting that the kids are being taken away purely down to her getting naked infront of them, i mean come on, im sure the judge would have thrown that witness out straightaway if that was all the ”incriminating evidence” he had & the judge is a woman herself.
I dont agree with “Oh Please. They’re going to take Britney’s kid away from her from walking around in front of the kids naked?” because i dont think that they’re gonna take her kids away just cause she got naked (no court would do that). Its down to hard partying, drinking, drugs & wild parties whilst the kids are around.
I know if my kids were being brought up around that (say, by my partnet) id go to heaven and earth to get them out of that situation.
Where are the kids when she’s out – well I assume they are with a nanny. Surely you don’t think Britney is doing the diapering and feeding and the waking in the night? Surely there is one or two nannies on the scene to take care of the kids.
Parents go out and party. We do not die or become different people when we become parents. It’s not a crime to go out and party if you’re over 21 and don’t drive. We don’t want to criminalize that. The kids aren’t at the club, they are with a nanny.
Lots of parents find the transition difficult. She just went through a divorce. Lots of people have breakdowns or start to party when they divorce.
A lot of the stuff I’m hearing is people criminalizing non-criminal behavior. It’s not a crime to put soda in a bottle. It’s not a crime to go party if you got a sitter. It’s not a crime to smoke around children, especially outdoors. It’s not a crime to dance around like a stripper. It’s not a crime to take prescription medication. It’s not a crime to drink alcohol. There is no evidence, that we can see, that illegal drugs are involved.
I know tons of parents who do these things on occassion. I do these things on occassion.
Will you win parent of the year? No. But her children are very, very young. They are more likely to be scarred by being spied on and photographed 24/7 by the paparrazzi than because mommy went out and partied.
If you want to go out and party – get a babysitter and do it responsibly by taking a cab home. That’s allowed, parents, even really really good ones do that.
There’s bound to be some exaggeration with a whole industry dependent on Britney screwing up to sell magazines and ad space. Lots of people meet friends for drinks, or go out after their kids are in bed. Plus, weren’t you ever young?
Funny, I never hear about hollywood men who leave the kids home for a night on the town. Kevin Federline is out partying all the time and no one seems to care.
I agree with Violet about the Hollywood men. It is almost all women who are being picked on. I don’t believe there are any male equivalents to Britney, Paris, or Lindsay in the media frenzy.
Even the Hollywood men agree with Violet – Justin Timberlake brought up in an interview that even though HE was the one who tore her wardrobe off SHE, Janet Jackson, took 95% of the crap for it.
It’s also greatly women who are doing all the talking about it. The men are following our lead.
The mean girl got let out of high school.
Everyone knows Britney needs to get her act together but people really need to stop knocking her every move. This b.s naked infront of her kids stuff is ridiculous not even worth the time in court and should be dismissed.
I disagree with the articles qoute, ” It’s not just Britney, all women walk the whore-madonna line in one way or another.” >>>> Yeah right! Madonna had sex with animals on video…And now she’s miss wonderful infront of the world adopting children from Africa. Whatever!
Britneys not so bad when I think of all the nasty things Madonna did.
The reference is to The Madonna – not the rockstar, but the virgin Mary – mother of Jesus.
Whom Madonna, the rockstar, was actually named after because her mother was extremely Catholic.
The Whore-Madonna syndrome is how women are percieved as either a whore OR a virgin and there is no middle ground. The problem with that is that there was only 1 mother who could be a virgin. So it’s in reference to a standard that is impossible for real women to reach. Virginal and without sex AND maternal. You can’t be one and the other in real life.
See we can’t be without sex to achieve motherhood, which we’re told is our function. But they call us whores if we do it.
We’re told both by society – be a whore and attract men to procreate. Then I can’t believe you had sex – you’re a mother!
That Madonna was a provocative rock star is only modern-day irony. And she did not actually have sex with dogs. She posed nude next to dogs. Thats an important distinction.
That pissed me off when I first heard about that.
I may have some complaints about Britney, but her being nude in front of her 1 and 2 year old children sure as heck ain’t one of them.
Seriously! First of all, what mother hasn’t showered or taken a bath with her young children? And second of all, they were only 1 and 2 years old at the time.
She’s a female like myself, but my daughter used to hop in the shower with me every once in a while until she turned 11 years old, and even now that she’s 15 she sometimes comes into the bathroom to tell me something while I’m showering or drying off after a shower. She’s my child, and the way I see it if I were to try to hide my naked body from her that would be making it seem like there’s something shameful about the human body. I admire all of the old ladies at the Y that walk around the locker room in the nude. There’s NOTHING REMOTELY SEXUAL about it when they do it, and in my opinion their a good example to all of the ladies and girls in the locker room.