Can we be completely honest?

I have to admit, there are times when I don’t feel that I can be completely honest with Bald Man. And, usually, it’s not that I don’t want to be. It’s that I’m embarrassed to be.

You see, the problem with being so close to someone, sometimes, is that they see and know all your faults. I feel privileged enough to be with someone who doesn’t constantly point them out and pick at them, but it’s still hard to know that he sees these blemishes and has to deal with them with me for the rest of our lives.

So, sometimes, if I’m dealing with a particular one (can you guess that maybe I am now?), I just try to hide it and wish and hope and pray it away. And I try not to bring it up. Again.

That’s doesn’t work so well, being that we’ve been together for 15 years and he kinda knows when something’s wrong and probably exactly what is wrong and it would all be easier if I would just tell him already.

And, eventually, I do. Not because I expect him to fix it, and not even because I expect him to understand it (we struggle with such different things!). I do because that’s part of our marriage. We chose each other agreeing to walk through every struggle together.

And many struggles together more than once!

That’s part of friendship, yeah? I’m glad I married my friend.

Do you have people in your life who are willing to walk with you through the reoccurring struggles?

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