Can you afford to be romantic?
July 18, 2006 by Sasha Manuel
Filed under Relationships
Are there really women out there who can’t afford to be romantic?
I’ve heard women classified as desperate by people when they’ve reached the threshold of eligibility, ergo, making them spinsters if not, candidates, at least.
Tell me, is there a definitive deadline for someone to choose a mate before labeling her a spinster?
Once a woman sees this possibility, it scares her. It then creates a domino effect of bad choices, one jerk after the other. Making her believe in the lie that she has to grab what’s there for the taking. It’s sad, really.
What makes a woman lose her right to choose her mate in the first place? Is it if she doesn’t fit the mold as to what the society dictates to be beautiful? Is it if she doesn’t run in the same social circle as the guy’s? Or is it because she’s simply was branded less of a human being since she never finished a degree or only speaks one language?
Questions that need answering. I’m hoping to find positive and real ones since I’m one of the people who advocates that anyone can afford to be romantic and ask for the ideal. I believe that one should never settle on something or someone less than he or she deserves.
If by your question you mean: “Can I wait for my perfect, ideal mate? Without being pressured by the norms, some clock ticking?” then I’d definitely say “Yes!”.
Only you would know who is right for you. If it doesn’t fit the mold, or other people do not agree to the idea, what then? Granting that we are social beings and we have to live in a community, in the end it will still be the 2 of you who’s gonna live together for eternity {ideally}.
I am a romantic at heart, I know that if you just allow yourself to find that special person, and if you are ready, I’m sure that he’ll come knocking one day. {Fingers crossed}
I’m clearly a romantic, too. But I do have opportunities that other women don’t, which makes them think that it’s not “practical” to be one, especially when faced with the idea that they’ll be single for eternity. Now, I have this burden to let them know that it’s way much better to stay single than marry by mistake.
Amen to that!
I still have single friends, mostly girl friends, who I “push” to find someone. Most of them are just shrugging me off. I’ve been married for awhile now and can truly say that it’s a joy to be married to your ideal mate. So I guess Im just trying to help them find what I have, too. But in fairness, they are not desperate at all. Guys pursue them and there are opps to be married. But like you, they’d rather stay single than marry by mistake.
Cheers to you! {IMHO} You are on the right track.
Thanks for the reassurance.
I’m happy to hear that you’ve found a husband without sacrificing your ideals. And having experienced that kind of happiness makes you wish that others will know of the same joy.