Cheaters Never Prosper
March 6, 2009 by Michelle Smith
Filed under Relationships
What lengths would you go to in an effort to discover whether your boyfriend or girlfriend was cheating?
Michael Strahan, former football great for the New York Giants, was recently discovered to have put a tracking device on the vehicle of his girlfriend, Nicole Murphy, former wife of Eddie Murphy. The reason for the tracking device? Apparently Strahan didn’t appreciate the amount of time Nicole was spending with Demetrius Spencer, a record executive.
The tracking device remained a secret until Nicole Murphy took her vehicle in for servicing. The service techs found it under the dash, which flushed Michael Strahan out. I don’t know if the device showed that Nicole was a cheater, but the couple broke up soon after the device was discovered. Awk-ward.
I once knew a man whose girlfriend went to some pretty great lengths to catch him in what she thought would be a cheating situation. First, she set up a fake email account. Second, she contacted him from the account and said that they had mutual friends or something like that. Third, she sent him naked photos of herself, which were of course not her, but someone else (copied and pasted from somewhere??). Fourth, she tried to get him to send naked photos of himself.
My friend, he suspected his girlfriend right away. He’s definitely not the type of guy to take naked photos of himself, anyway. She denied being Naked Girl, but the emails stopped after they talked.
I’ve been involved with a cheater (or three) and that kind of betrayal is a serious kind of hurt. Even so, I would never go to those extremes to catch someone that I suspected of cheating on me. No plan to draw him out. No tracking device under the car. If someone’s not that into me, it’s going to come out sooner or later. I don’t need a trap to hasten it along.
How about you? Have you ever set a trap or been trapped?
tracking device?thats just over the limit there..what is he trying to do?research on her like in the national geographic researcher?
In my last relationship, I overheard a conversation between my lover and his friend, regarding a woman he wanted my lover to meet. I kept it expecting it to happen, but it didn’t. On night I had a dream that this “friend” put her in bed between us. I had his email password, so I looked up his email, and he was writing to this friend regarding leaving me and starting up with this other woman. He started bringing his own computer and writing from my bed. He quit opening the door for me. Finally, I confronted him and he denied his intentions. Then, about 5 days before Chistmas, he called and said he wouldn’t be spending Christmas with me, but with her. I was crushed. It took me 6 months to get back on my feet, and one year to even contemplate dating again.
I’ve been cheated on 546741565 times. But usually, when I go looking for proof, or snooping through his stuff, I end up finding things out about exes and other stuff I just don’t want to know. I never find anything I can use, but I end up feeling shitty anyway.
Darcie, I’ve had the same experience – you are not going to find something to make you feel any better.
Rascalstew, I’m sorry, that sounds like a horrible situation and I’m betting that Christmas was a lot less festive that year. Unfortunately, the internet makes it much easier for people to cheat. His friend sure sounds like no friend of yours. What an ass.
Someone once said to me “im a serial!”. Meaning that s/he cheats on a regular basis. I don’t think that relationships like this can end with a fairytale ending of sort. Mainly because relationships are based on trust and once you throw that out of the window, there goes your relationship with it, ball and chain. The title is an apt one, cheaters cheat to get caught, its human nature to eventually slip up, and if one is astute enough, the subtle Freudian slips would definitely expose the cheater.
In my point of view, people cheat for attention, it is just one big game of attention seeking. However, I think setting a trap is uncalled for, in the first place, talking to your significant other (whom you expect of cheating) would be top priority. Since the talk rarely happens, it exhibits a significant lack of communication and trust in the relationship, and as I said, doomed to fail.