Chemistry and the Part It Plays In Attraction

Over at Chemistry.com, they have a number of interesting articles on the issues of dating, attraction, chemistry, ect.  I’m working my way through them and I thought that an article, by Kimberly Dawn Neumann, entitled, Are Certain Types Destined To Date,  was timely in light of Lara’s First Dates #374 post last week. 

The article explains that some people look for someone like themself and some look for someone very different, but that for the most part, the successful relationship is the one in which the couples have complimentary personalities - not just exactly the same, not too different. Although, there is a danger in the complimentary couple finding themselves further entrenched in their particle personality quirks.  Neumann says, “… couples should be careful to treat their partner’s strengths not as a crutch, but as an opportunity to watch and learn new habits and skills to move outside their comfort zones on occasion.” 

Science plays a part in attraction, Neumann shares that “Helen Fisher, Ph.D., anthropologist and author of Why We Love,” breaks the types down into four “temperaments.” Each temperament has a “chemical in charge,” and a good and bad match.  For example, say you identified yourself as “The Negotiator,” it would go like this:

The Negotiator
Chemical in charge: Estrogen (associated with intuition and creativity)
Personality: Imaginative, sympathetic, socially skilled, idealistic
Best match: Good with all types!
Worst match: None

To figure out your temperament and the personality type you should be looking for, take a look at

Chemistry – Are Certain Types Destined To Date?