Comments on: Childhood Spanking Leads to Sexual Promiscuity http://www.blisstree.com/articles/childhood-spanking-leads-to-sexual-promiscuity-35/ Family, Health, Home and Lifestyles Fri, 04 Dec 2009 07:59:21 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: PDeverit http://www.blisstree.com/articles/childhood-spanking-leads-to-sexual-promiscuity-35/comment-page-1/#comment-405153 PDeverit Mon, 03 Aug 2009 09:07:10 +0000 http://www.supernannyrules.com/childhood-spanking-leads-to-sexual-promiscuity/#comment-405153 Most compelling of all reasons to abandon this worst of all bad habits is the fact that buttock-battering can be unintentional sexual abuse for some children. There is an abundance of educational literature, testimonies, documentation, etc available on the subject that can easily be found by doing a little research on the topic. Just a handful of those helping to raise awareness of why child buttock-battering isn't a good idea: American Academy of Pediatrics American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry Center For Effective Discipline PsycHealth Ltd Behavioral Health Professionals Churches' Network For Non-Violence Nobel Peace Prize recipient Archbishop Desmond Tutu (Global Initiative) Parenting in Jesus' Footsteps United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child Global Initiative To End All Corporal Punishment of Children Countries where child buttock-battering is prohibited by law: Sweden, Finland, Norway, Austria, Cyprus, Italy, Denmark, Latvia, Croatia, Bulgaria, Germany, Israel, Iceland, Ukraine, Romania, Hungary, Greece, Netherlands, New Zealand, Portugal, Uruguay, Venezuela, Chile, Spain, Costa Rica, Republic of Moldova, and more in process. In fact, the US was the only UN member who did not sign the Convention on the Rights of the Child. Most compelling of all reasons to abandon this worst of all bad habits is the fact that buttock-battering can be unintentional sexual abuse for some children. There is an abundance of educational literature, testimonies, documentation, etc available on the subject that can easily be found by doing a little research on the topic.

Just a handful of those helping to raise awareness of why child buttock-battering isn’t a good idea:

American Academy of Pediatrics

American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry

Center For Effective Discipline

PsycHealth Ltd Behavioral Health Professionals

Churches’ Network For Non-Violence

Nobel Peace Prize recipient Archbishop Desmond Tutu (Global Initiative)

Parenting in Jesus’ Footsteps

United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child

Global Initiative To End All Corporal Punishment of Children

Countries where child buttock-battering is prohibited by law:

Sweden, Finland, Norway, Austria, Cyprus, Italy, Denmark, Latvia, Croatia, Bulgaria, Germany, Israel, Iceland, Ukraine, Romania, Hungary, Greece, Netherlands, New Zealand, Portugal, Uruguay, Venezuela, Chile, Spain, Costa Rica, Republic of Moldova, and more in process.
In fact, the US was the only UN member who did not sign the Convention on the Rights of the Child.

]]> By: PDeverit http://www.blisstree.com/articles/childhood-spanking-leads-to-sexual-promiscuity-35/comment-page-1/#comment-405138 PDeverit Mon, 03 Aug 2009 08:57:37 +0000 http://www.supernannyrules.com/childhood-spanking-leads-to-sexual-promiscuity/#comment-405138 Child buttock-battering for the purpose of gaining compliance is nothing more than an inherited bad habit. Its a good idea for people to take a look at what they are doing and learn how to DISCIPLINE instead of hit. I think the reason why television shows like "Supernanny" and "Dr. Phil" are so popular is because that is precisely what many (not all) people are trying to do. There are several reasons why child buttock-battering isn't a good idea. Here are some good, quick reads recommended by professionals: Plain Talk About Spanking by Jordan Riak The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children by Tom Johnson NO VITAL ORGANS THERE, So They Say by Lesli Taylor M.D., and Adah Maurer Ph.D. Child buttock-battering for the purpose of gaining compliance is nothing more than an inherited bad habit.

Its a good idea for people to take a look at what they are doing and learn how to DISCIPLINE instead of hit.

I think the reason why television shows like “Supernanny” and “Dr. Phil” are so popular is because that is precisely what many (not all) people are trying to do.

There are several reasons why child buttock-battering isn’t a good idea. Here are some good, quick reads recommended by professionals:

Plain Talk About Spanking
by Jordan Riak

The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children
by Tom Johnson

NO VITAL ORGANS THERE, So They Say
by Lesli Taylor M.D., and Adah Maurer Ph.D.

]]> By: mom3 http://www.blisstree.com/articles/childhood-spanking-leads-to-sexual-promiscuity-35/comment-page-1/#comment-32777 mom3 Sun, 14 Sep 2008 21:05:11 +0000 http://www.supernannyrules.com/childhood-spanking-leads-to-sexual-promiscuity/#comment-32777 I agree...although I'm not pro-spanking, I have a hard time buying the argument that spanking increases sexual promiscuity. I do think other forms of disicipline are typically more effective, but I don't think an occasional spanking is out of line in specific situations. There is a great debate about spanking at www.opposingviews.com/questions/is-spanking-an-acceptable-form-of-discipline Experts from both sides weigh in....really interesting read on the topic with lots of good arguments! I agree…although I’m not pro-spanking, I have a hard time buying the argument that spanking increases sexual promiscuity. I do think other forms of disicipline are typically more effective, but I don’t think an occasional spanking is out of line in specific situations. There is a great debate about spanking at http://www.opposingviews.com/questions/is-spanking-an-acceptable-form-of-discipline Experts from both sides weigh in….really interesting read on the topic with lots of good arguments!

]]> By: Ashley http://www.blisstree.com/articles/childhood-spanking-leads-to-sexual-promiscuity-35/comment-page-1/#comment-29388 Ashley Fri, 04 Apr 2008 15:46:59 +0000 http://www.supernannyrules.com/childhood-spanking-leads-to-sexual-promiscuity/#comment-29388 Jessica, do you feel you would have been effected negatively if the spankings had been doled out only for big punishments - like every once in a while? I guess I'm asking, do you feel like your parents misused spanking in a negative way, or do you feel like any kind of spanking scenario is problematic? Also, were your parents addicts? Jessica, do you feel you would have been effected negatively if the spankings had been doled out only for big punishments – like every once in a while? I guess I’m asking, do you feel like your parents misused spanking in a negative way, or do you feel like any kind of spanking scenario is problematic?

Also, were your parents addicts?

]]> By: Jessica M http://www.blisstree.com/articles/childhood-spanking-leads-to-sexual-promiscuity-35/comment-page-1/#comment-29411 Jessica M Fri, 04 Apr 2008 05:39:22 +0000 http://www.supernannyrules.com/childhood-spanking-leads-to-sexual-promiscuity/#comment-29411 I am living proof that this statment is true. I am a junior in college and my parents would spank me for the most nonsensical things, such as swearing accidentally or not wanting to go to daycare. I am now an alcoholic and a slight drug addict. I have alot of sex for control. In my freshman year i was date raped not once but 3 times. but it didnt even phase me I am living proof that this statment is true. I am a junior in college and my parents would spank me for the most nonsensical things, such as swearing accidentally or not wanting to go to daycare.

I am now an alcoholic and a slight drug addict. I have alot of sex for control. In my freshman year i was date raped not once but 3 times.

but it didnt even phase me

]]> By: Gayla McCord http://www.blisstree.com/articles/childhood-spanking-leads-to-sexual-promiscuity-35/comment-page-1/#comment-29775 Gayla McCord Fri, 21 Mar 2008 12:01:22 +0000 http://www.supernannyrules.com/childhood-spanking-leads-to-sexual-promiscuity/#comment-29775 You think I'm off base, I think you are - now that's settled, can we just move on? You think I’m off base, I think you are – now that’s settled, can we just move on?

]]> By: Tiffany http://www.blisstree.com/articles/childhood-spanking-leads-to-sexual-promiscuity-35/comment-page-1/#comment-29517 Tiffany Fri, 21 Mar 2008 11:53:50 +0000 http://www.supernannyrules.com/childhood-spanking-leads-to-sexual-promiscuity/#comment-29517 Your brother's step kids might behavior might have more to do with lack of real instruction and parenting NOT lack of spanking. Refusing to spank does not have to be some form of unparenting as you seem to suggest. You are way off base. Your brother’s step kids might behavior might have more to do with lack of real instruction and parenting NOT lack of spanking.

Refusing to spank does not have to be some form of unparenting as you seem to suggest. You are way off base.

]]> By: Gayla McCord http://www.blisstree.com/articles/childhood-spanking-leads-to-sexual-promiscuity-35/comment-page-1/#comment-29469 Gayla McCord Fri, 21 Mar 2008 10:58:01 +0000 http://www.supernannyrules.com/childhood-spanking-leads-to-sexual-promiscuity/#comment-29469 David, you're just like every other person who takes a simple, very direct comment and makes a F'n mountain out of it. It's not like I'm saying that I spanked my kids on a daily basis. I spanked them for actions that were life threatening. I scared the shit out of them in a way that made them NEVER want to repeat the act. Would I do it again? You bet! Was it effective? Check out what my kids had to say about it in one of the follow up posts just beyond this one. My kids are 15. I spanked EACH Maybe 5 times their entire lives. It was nothing that was excessive and I don't think spanking should be used as the ONLY form of punishment, but I think it should be used as the brute force, get attention NOW, make the kid NEVER want to do it again sort of punishment. I could care less about numerous studies - when it comes to children and raising them, there is NO perfect recipe. I especially love how father's who have little time invested in their children or therapists who don't have children think they're an expert on children. My brother has a couple of step-kids and their mother doesn't believe in spanking - but "talking" to them about what they've done wrong. One of the little brats threw eggs all over my house - the other kicks, hits and giggles thinking it's so fun! Just gave me an idea for another post. Fact is, I can't stand the kids and it's caused me to not want to visit my brother and my brother comes to spend some weekends at my house because he can't stand to be around them. They are BRATS! David, you’re just like every other person who takes a simple, very direct comment and makes a F’n mountain out of it.

It’s not like I’m saying that I spanked my kids on a daily basis. I spanked them for actions that were life threatening. I scared the shit out of them in a way that made them NEVER want to repeat the act.

Would I do it again? You bet!

Was it effective? Check out what my kids had to say about it in one of the follow up posts just beyond this one.

My kids are 15. I spanked EACH Maybe 5 times their entire lives. It was nothing that was excessive and I don’t think spanking should be used as the ONLY form of punishment, but I think it should be used as the brute force, get attention NOW, make the kid NEVER want to do it again sort of punishment.

I could care less about numerous studies – when it comes to children and raising them, there is NO perfect recipe. I especially love how father’s who have little time invested in their children or therapists who don’t have children think they’re an expert on children.

My brother has a couple of step-kids and their mother doesn’t believe in spanking – but “talking” to them about what they’ve done wrong.

One of the little brats threw eggs all over my house – the other kicks, hits and giggles thinking it’s so fun!

Just gave me an idea for another post. Fact is, I can’t stand the kids and it’s caused me to not want to visit my brother and my brother comes to spend some weekends at my house because he can’t stand to be around them. They are BRATS!

]]> By: David Mackay http://www.blisstree.com/articles/childhood-spanking-leads-to-sexual-promiscuity-35/comment-page-1/#comment-29425 David Mackay Fri, 21 Mar 2008 05:48:23 +0000 http://www.supernannyrules.com/childhood-spanking-leads-to-sexual-promiscuity/#comment-29425 'A local couple just scraped their kid off the road this week because they tried to teach him peacefully and creatively not to run in the road. I bet they’re wishing they’d used a little brute force now' So according to you Gayla road trafffic accidents could be reduced if more parents spanked their children.What a ridiculous comment! There have been numerous studies which strongly suggest that spanking negatively affects child development. Find me one that argues contrary to this and I will be amazed. There are far better ways of disciplining children than resorting to violence. ‘A local couple just scraped their kid off the road this week because they tried to teach him peacefully and creatively not to run in the road. I bet they’re wishing they’d used a little brute force now’

So according to you Gayla road trafffic accidents could be reduced if more parents spanked their children.What a ridiculous comment!

There have been numerous studies which strongly suggest that spanking negatively affects child development. Find me one that argues contrary to this and I will be amazed.

There are far better ways of disciplining children than resorting to violence.

]]> By: Tiffany http://www.blisstree.com/articles/childhood-spanking-leads-to-sexual-promiscuity-35/comment-page-1/#comment-29988 Tiffany Thu, 13 Mar 2008 15:59:13 +0000 http://www.supernannyrules.com/childhood-spanking-leads-to-sexual-promiscuity/#comment-29988 No Mandy...I didn't say YOU wrote it. The post we are commenting on said it. And Ashley I do consider my children equals. They are flesh and blood humans just like me. Weaker and more vulnerable than I though....so that is why I don't think hitting is approprite. No Mandy…I didn’t say YOU wrote it. The post we are commenting on said it.

And Ashley I do consider my children equals. They are flesh and blood humans just like me. Weaker and more vulnerable than I though….so that is why I don’t think hitting is approprite.

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