Christian Domestic Discipline: A Reader’s Story

When I wrote the post on Christian Domestic Discipline (CDD) I was hoping for someone that practiced it to comment.  It is all very well to think you know something from your own point of view but, as we all know, it is always good to look at the other side of it.

Penny commented on the post, and when I emailed here and asked if she would allow me to make her comment into a  post she graciously said yes. She has also agreed to answer your questions.

Christian Domestic Discipline (CDD) is a lifestyle.  Some people that practice it believe that it is scriptural while others, like Penny, believe that it is just not condemned by scripture. Here is a website that believes that it is scriptural, and also has a lot of basic information.

Here is Penny’s story:

I am a woman who practices this lifestyle. Contrary to what you all seem to think, this is most definitely not a control issue, least of all not for my husband.

Most couples who practice this begin to do so because the wife brings the subject to her husband’s attention. Almost without fail, it is the woman who wants this life. It is certainly the case with us. It took much talking before my husband agreed to trying this.

As far as I know, most CDDers do not claim that this is commanded by Scripture, but rather that it is not condemned. Huge difference there.

As for how things work – hubby and I sat down and discussed the things which I need to work on (my temper is a big one, since I fear that the children will suffer from my outbursts), and we discussed the punishments which will follow the breaking of each rule. To be clear – Hubby and I discussed these things together, and came to a mutual agreement. The whole CDD lifestyle was my idea.

There are some safeguards in place – hubby’s idea. A rule can never be made but what will benefit either me or the family (i.e. he can not tell me to get him a drink and punish me if I don’t).

We have a frank discussion every six months, to make changes if needed.  At these times, I weigh in completely honestly. Of course, we are completely honest with each other at all times – no marriage works otherwise.

I don’t mind answering some questions, as long as they are appropriate and not distasteful.   Feel free to ask.

So there you have it.  You may ask any question you like in the comment section and Penny will do her best to answer it.

I will add a caveat to that, however.  This has the potential to be an emotional, and passionate discussion because people will have strong opinions.  You may add your comment however:

• No swearing.  Seriously folks, cussing is the evidence of a small mind and limited vocabulary.
• Comments must not attack anyone.
• Marc and I will edit any comment we feel is detrimental to the conversation.

So, ask your questions, and hopefully Penny will be able to give you the answers.

image:morguefile