Clearly Speaking What’s On Your Mind

Okay, we’ve all had a knock-down, drag out fight with our spouse. Sometimes, we’ve said a few things we wish we didn’t. But if you’re the type of couple that argues so hard you lose sight of what you’re really trying to say, I think you’ll find this piece of advice of interest.

According to an article on parenting.com, remind yourself to “use your words.” Yes, the exact advice that you give your toddler who is throwing a temper tantrum. When you and your spouse are getting so angry that you’re actually bringing up old fights or getting extremely personal, remind yourself to verbalize clearly what it is you find objectionable at this moment.

It can be difficult to do, especially if you’re so mad you could spit. Or worse, you’re so mad that you’re quiet. (Besides no matter how long you’re married, you can’t expect your spouse to read your mind.)

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