Conflict in a Sea of Perfection
September 9, 2008 by Marye Audet
Filed under Relationships
Since you all ready know that Marc and I have the perfect marriage with absolutely no conflict I thought I would relate the one area that….every day…there is a moment…when…I have to choose…not to commit murder.
Can it be true? Mr. and Mrs. Happily-Ever-After have conflict?
Yes.
Actually, only I have the conflict. Marc just doesn’t care. Here is the scoop…
See I was raised by a father that believed in self discipline. Either you had it or you did not. There was not an excuse to be overweight, lack knowledge, or be a social gaffer. As far as he was concerned everyone either had discipline. Or. They. Did. Not.
This may have led to my anorexia as a teen but we will go there another time.
I grew up not using an alarm clock. Dad hated people sleeping in, something that I tend to have an irritation issue with, too. I must admit, though, when I work until 2 or 3 a.m. it is hard to get up by 7 or 8. Anyway, dad equated sleeping in with abject laziness and lack of discipline.
Have I mentioned my mom loved to sleep late?
He said, “Just tell yourself what time to wake up..and then do it.”
I didn’t know any better so, that is what I have always done. I sort of set my inner alarm clock for whatever time I want to wake up..and then I wake up.
Simple.
Because of that alarm clocks startle me. I wake up to the sound of a strange man’s voice in my bedroom and adrenalin coursing through my body, my heart pounding, my extremities trembling.
Fight or Flight.
But that’s not all. There is a horrid, horrid insturment of torture called, The Snooze Alarm.
And my wonderful husband uses it. Numerous times.
Everytime it goes off I have the same response. Heart pounding, body trembling..followed by a rush of irritation.
Yesterday our 16 year old, Huck, had to be at college at 8. Huck is a perfect son, except he has inherited his father’s propensity for lack of discipline in the area of waking up.
The alarm went off at 5 a.m…Or so.
Marc hit the snooze.
The alarm went off at 5:10
Marc hit the snooze.
The alarm when of at 5:20
Marc hit the…..
Well he almost hit the ground outside the window, two stories down. I growled, “Unplug the darn thing, take the batteries out, or break it. I don’t want to hear it again.”
Marc being the caring, compassionate man that he is, did none of the above. He chuckled. Yes CHUCKLED, and got back into bed.
In 10 minutes the alarm went off again.
:::Tiffany don’t read the next part:::
Now, please understand that I am so not in to gun control. Don’t think that is is not tempting to have the pistol under the pillow for such a time as this. One quick shot and the alarm would be history.
You did know I was talking about the alarm, right?
:::Tiffany, you can read the rest:::::
Do you battle over the snooze? Is this common or is it just me? Because I need to know.
I’ll bet this has something to do with me hitting snooze every morning numerous times.
EVERY MORNING!!
…and now to go read Marye’s enlightening post.
LOL!
Oh. my. word.
My husband and I are the exact same way. He uses an alarm that makes me jump and also wakes the baby. He’s a major snooze button freak, so it repeats over and over and over until I lose it. Then he needles me about being grumpy in the morning!
LOL! No one uses a snooze alarm here. Alarms stress me out. Jim usually rises at the first sign of an alarm. If I need to wake I pray and ask God to wake me. the other morning i heard a piano, woke and no one was up. I guess it was a heavenly song.
Our conflict is that jim thinks I should go to bed at twilight and wake at sunrise or earlier. He claims to have bible back up for this. @@
I am in the position at this point of telling the teens that they should get 8 hours of sleep I would prefer no later than 12;00 to 8:00 am for them. Jim prefers 8:00pm to 4:00 am. So my compromise is that they have to be quiet enough after 8:00 not to wake Jim…and no lights on after 12:00. It’s too expensive
My internal clock wakes me at 5:30-6:oo am, but Jim thinks I sleep in. It is quite possible I am sleep walking for 50 minutes/ 3 days a week as I use the treadmill between 5:30 and 6:30….. would that be sleeping in?
yep, our issue is what is your definition of staying up late and getting up early?
Tamra- we need to brainstorm a suitable punishment.
GInger…Hmmmm…You know..I do have this 2×4 in my barn….
Well, now see I have an opposite problem… I don’t hear alarm clocks…. ever… It was a very very bad thing in jr high and high school… I won’t tell you how many times I awoke at 645 am to catch my ride at 655 for class at 705.. it was not pretty. Dh has to get up at 430 for papers, but I rarely hear him.. (well, now I do because I’m up off an on all night just to turn this big belly over like a pancake) We also have the joy of him being a morning person and me being a night person.. But Jim is very amiable in general and that has never caused conflict… (well, except for when he’s falling asleep on me when I’m wanting to talk or just company, but that’s another issue… teehee!!)
Marc did not, to my knowledge hit the snooze this morning…
HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAhahahahahahahahahaha.
No shooting Marye!
I am also a snooze-alarm-hitter. My husband too. We’re a family full of snoozers. But now that I’m blessed to stay home, and he wakes at 4:00 in the morning, I have been known to throw an angry leg his way when he hits snooze more than once
Would that be…called…:::wait for it, you know I am going to say it::::
Angry Leg Syndrome, the psychotic version of restless leg syndrome?
LOL!