Comments on: Correcting someone else’s child http://www.blisstree.com/articles/correcting-someone-elses-child-35/ Family, Health, Home and Lifestyles Thu, 03 Dec 2009 07:59:23 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Top 10 List of Favorite Links | Telling It Like It Is http://www.blisstree.com/articles/correcting-someone-elses-child-35/comment-page-1/#comment-30177 Top 10 List of Favorite Links | Telling It Like It Is Wed, 26 Mar 2008 09:38:29 +0000 http://www.supernannyrules.com/correcting-someone-elses-child/#comment-30177 [...] Correcting Someone Else’s Child caught really my attention, as Gayla McCord details how difficult it can be in dealing with undisciplined children, and finding strategic ways of getting out of doing babysitting favors for parents with children that are out of control. [...] [...] Correcting Someone Else’s Child caught really my attention, as Gayla McCord details how difficult it can be in dealing with undisciplined children, and finding strategic ways of getting out of doing babysitting favors for parents with children that are out of control. [...]

]]> By: CanadianMom http://www.blisstree.com/articles/correcting-someone-elses-child-35/comment-page-1/#comment-29827 CanadianMom Wed, 26 Mar 2008 00:32:40 +0000 http://www.supernannyrules.com/correcting-someone-elses-child/#comment-29827 Ha ha, I just realized I am spelling in Canadian. Too many u's in behaviour. Forgive me? Ha ha, I just realized I am spelling in Canadian. Too many u’s in behaviour. Forgive me?

]]> By: CanadianMom http://www.blisstree.com/articles/correcting-someone-elses-child-35/comment-page-1/#comment-28953 CanadianMom Wed, 26 Mar 2008 00:31:36 +0000 http://www.supernannyrules.com/correcting-someone-elses-child/#comment-28953 I beleive in parents being responsible for the actions of their children as well. After all, who teaches them? And if they are not taught proper behaviour, who's to blame? If ever I caught any kid throwing eggs at my house, I would have called the police. After all, if it were Hallowe'en and it were a group of teenagers, the same would apply, no? And THAT would teach both the children AND the parents. I have sent kids home for repeated misbehaviour, and depending on how bad the deed was, banished them for extended periods. It's all you can do as a parent, because if you let that kid do it, why wouldn't your own kid do it? I beleive in parents being responsible for the actions of their children as well. After all, who teaches them? And if they are not taught proper behaviour, who’s to blame?
If ever I caught any kid throwing eggs at my house, I would have called the police. After all, if it were Hallowe’en and it were a group of teenagers, the same would apply, no? And THAT would teach both the children AND the parents.
I have sent kids home for repeated misbehaviour, and depending on how bad the deed was, banished them for extended periods. It’s all you can do as a parent, because if you let that kid do it, why wouldn’t your own kid do it?

]]> By: BMS http://www.blisstree.com/articles/correcting-someone-elses-child-35/comment-page-1/#comment-29861 BMS Sat, 22 Mar 2008 18:26:12 +0000 http://www.supernannyrules.com/correcting-someone-elses-child/#comment-29861 Parents do need to be held responsible, to some extent, for the actions of their children, particularly when they are small. If a parent is so totally oblivious and thoughtless that they let their kids throw eggs at a house (any house) then, I'm sorry, but they deserve to be isolated until they get a clue. There is a woman in my community would is a very intelligent, thoughtful, well traveled person. But she is completely incapable of disciplining her kids. Because of this, I just cannot spend time with her when her kids are there. They are utter brats, mean to other children, and snotty to adults. I won't expose my kids or myself to that - I'm not a masochist. And I feel bad for her, but she made her bed by not holding her kids to higher standards. Parents do need to be held responsible, to some extent, for the actions of their children, particularly when they are small. If a parent is so totally oblivious and thoughtless that they let their kids throw eggs at a house (any house) then, I’m sorry, but they deserve to be isolated until they get a clue.

There is a woman in my community would is a very intelligent, thoughtful, well traveled person. But she is completely incapable of disciplining her kids. Because of this, I just cannot spend time with her when her kids are there. They are utter brats, mean to other children, and snotty to adults. I won’t expose my kids or myself to that – I’m not a masochist. And I feel bad for her, but she made her bed by not holding her kids to higher standards.

]]> By: Sharon http://www.blisstree.com/articles/correcting-someone-elses-child-35/comment-page-1/#comment-29807 Sharon Fri, 21 Mar 2008 21:15:00 +0000 http://www.supernannyrules.com/correcting-someone-elses-child/#comment-29807 Hi Gayla: I totally hear ya on that. I respect everything you said. This is one of those subjects I am always totally on the fence about. I'd hate to see woman isolate other woman because of the behaviors of little people who have yet to develop all the judgment and reason they need to act like they should all the time. We can be valuable resources to each other, and help each other through a lot of this kid stuff, but then if you are banishing the child, you banish the adult, and she is left w/o support and friendship. We all are only so responsible for the actions of our children. BUT, like you said, you don't need to deal with that at your home. See: Me on Fence :) Have a good one! Hi Gayla: I totally hear ya on that. I respect everything you said. This is one of those subjects I am always totally on the fence about. I’d hate to see woman isolate other woman because of the behaviors of little people who have yet to develop all the judgment and reason they need to act like they should all the time. We can be valuable resources to each other, and help each other through a lot of this kid stuff, but then if you are banishing the child, you banish the adult, and she is left w/o support and friendship. We all are only so responsible for the actions of our children. BUT, like you said, you don’t need to deal with that at your home. See: Me on Fence :) Have a good one!

]]> By: Gayla McCord http://www.blisstree.com/articles/correcting-someone-elses-child-35/comment-page-1/#comment-30179 Gayla McCord Fri, 21 Mar 2008 20:20:33 +0000 http://www.supernannyrules.com/correcting-someone-elses-child/#comment-30179 I think every parent knows that kids will misbehave now and again - however, when a person comes to my house and their child does something as terrible as throwing eggs at my house or damaging my personal property, I don't think it's unreasonable for me to ask them to take their children home and not bring them back. In fact, if personal property is damaged, I believe the parents should have to compensate. There was a kid that came to our house a while back and broke one of my kids brand new electronic games - my son hadn't even had it a week and what's worse is the kid tried to cover it up. I called the kid - asked him to own up to what he'd done and the parents offer to pay for the repairs. I believe that's the way it should be handled. I think every parent knows that kids will misbehave now and again – however, when a person comes to my house and their child does something as terrible as throwing eggs at my house or damaging my personal property, I don’t think it’s unreasonable for me to ask them to take their children home and not bring them back. In fact, if personal property is damaged, I believe the parents should have to compensate.

There was a kid that came to our house a while back and broke one of my kids brand new electronic games – my son hadn’t even had it a week and what’s worse is the kid tried to cover it up.

I called the kid – asked him to own up to what he’d done and the parents offer to pay for the repairs.

I believe that’s the way it should be handled.

]]> By: Sharon http://www.blisstree.com/articles/correcting-someone-elses-child-35/comment-page-1/#comment-30252 Sharon Fri, 21 Mar 2008 19:21:58 +0000 http://www.supernannyrules.com/correcting-someone-elses-child/#comment-30252 I read posts here and a lot of other parent's boards about people's kid's behavior, and I am surprised often at how many parents don't have problems with their kids. I have 2 adorable (if I do say so myself), well-behaved children (ages 2 and 4). I teach them the lessons I hold valuable every day - manners, respect, etc.; however, sometimes, they have total amnesia about all of that! They get each other going, double-team me, don't listen, laugh at me, embarrass the ever-loving crap out of me in public, and to a person who only gets that snapshot, they look awful! AND, they are probably talked about that day on a chat room as being total brats, but they aren't! Some of us do all we can do have the child that everyone wants to be around, but they still act terrible at times. It's part of the process of growing up for them. I read posts here and a lot of other parent’s boards about people’s kid’s behavior, and I am surprised often at how many parents don’t have problems with their kids. I have 2 adorable (if I do say so myself), well-behaved children (ages 2 and 4). I teach them the lessons I hold valuable every day – manners, respect, etc.; however, sometimes, they have total amnesia about all of that! They get each other going, double-team me, don’t listen, laugh at me, embarrass the ever-loving crap out of me in public, and to a person who only gets that snapshot, they look awful! AND, they are probably talked about that day on a chat room as being total brats, but they aren’t! Some of us do all we can do have the child that everyone wants to be around, but they still act terrible at times. It’s part of the process of growing up for them.

]]> By: Gayla McCord http://www.blisstree.com/articles/correcting-someone-elses-child-35/comment-page-1/#comment-30404 Gayla McCord Fri, 21 Mar 2008 18:53:26 +0000 http://www.supernannyrules.com/correcting-someone-elses-child/#comment-30404 @ Pickel - It's understandable and far more easily tolerated when a condition is to blame aside from just being a spoiled brat. Maria - I'm still prompting my teens sometimes - but it's always nice to start very early. I think mine tend to get more sidetracked by cute girls now and sometimes forget their manners. PSMama - I'm with you on the loud noises. Can't stand them, don't tolerate them and won't. I wonder if that has anything to do with why we have so little company :) @ Pickel – It’s understandable and far more easily tolerated when a condition is to blame aside from just being a spoiled brat.

Maria – I’m still prompting my teens sometimes – but it’s always nice to start very early. I think mine tend to get more sidetracked by cute girls now and sometimes forget their manners.

PSMama – I’m with you on the loud noises. Can’t stand them, don’t tolerate them and won’t. I wonder if that has anything to do with why we have so little company :)

]]> By: PreSchool Mama http://www.blisstree.com/articles/correcting-someone-elses-child-35/comment-page-1/#comment-29999 PreSchool Mama Fri, 21 Mar 2008 18:45:43 +0000 http://www.supernannyrules.com/correcting-someone-elses-child/#comment-29999 I am not sure I'd be able to tell the parents to leave the house if their kids were throwing eggs about the place, but an angry or exasperated look would defintely be in order! I've found mothers do get the look of annoyance that you have when their kid is misbehaving. It's worked in my case. I never had a problem with constant never ending tantrums with my son, so I just can't stand high decibel non stop noise from other people's kids either. I am not sure I’d be able to tell the parents to leave the house if their kids were throwing eggs about the place, but an angry or exasperated look would defintely be in order! I’ve found mothers do get the look of annoyance that you have when their kid is misbehaving. It’s worked in my case.

I never had a problem with constant never ending tantrums with my son, so I just can’t stand high decibel non stop noise from other people’s kids either.

]]> By: Maria http://www.blisstree.com/articles/correcting-someone-elses-child-35/comment-page-1/#comment-30225 Maria Fri, 21 Mar 2008 14:48:42 +0000 http://www.supernannyrules.com/correcting-someone-elses-child/#comment-30225 Wow! I don't think it is ok for my 15 month old to hit and kick, much less a 5 year old. Yes, kids will be kids, but that does not mean that you should not correct poor behavior and teach the child proper social interaction, which brings me to one of my pet peeves-- the use of PLEASE and THANK YOU! My 15 month old will say/sign these two words (thank you was said for the first time this morning!!! Yeah!!!). Yes, I still need to prompt him most of the time, but starting manners and modeling good behavior now will improve the chances that later in life he will do these things automatically. sorry for the rant. My personal policy with kids-- if you are in my house, you follow my rules. And my son still must follow my rules at other people's houses (if mine are more strict) or we will leave and the fun will end. Sucks, but that is the way it is. Wow! I don’t think it is ok for my 15 month old to hit and kick, much less a 5 year old. Yes, kids will be kids, but that does not mean that you should not correct poor behavior and teach the child proper social interaction, which brings me to one of my pet peeves– the use of PLEASE and THANK YOU! My 15 month old will say/sign these two words (thank you was said for the first time this morning!!! Yeah!!!). Yes, I still need to prompt him most of the time, but starting manners and modeling good behavior now will improve the chances that later in life he will do these things automatically.

sorry for the rant. My personal policy with kids– if you are in my house, you follow my rules. And my son still must follow my rules at other people’s houses (if mine are more strict) or we will leave and the fun will end. Sucks, but that is the way it is.

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