Dating Expert Warns Men Buying Gifts and Dinner is the Worst Way to Attract Women

America’s top expert on dating relationships advises men that, “Buying a woman gifts (or even dinner) to gain her affection is the absolute #1 recipe for failure!”

This powerful statement comes from Lance Mason, Founder of PickUp 101, during National Singles Week. As one world’s most sought after dating coaches for men, Mason flat out advises men never to buy a woman gifts (or even dinner) as a way to generate attraction, saying “It’s a loser strategy.”

Mason states that buying a woman gifts to win affection is not only absurd, it’s terrible advice, especially during National Singles Week. Mason believes that this kind of advice just feeds the myth that the way to a woman’s heart is by spending money on her. “I can teach any man to be more attractive to women.” Mason says confidently. “I can teach him how to get the women he desires attracted in less than 60 seconds, and he won’t have to spend a dime on her,” he adds.

Some of the other non-traditional teachings of Mason and my thoughts on those ideas are:

1. Never get a phone number! Get a date instead. If you can’t get a date when you are with her in person you can forget about convincing her on the phone days later.

I don’t agree with this statement.  There’s nothing I detest more than being put on the spot and face-to-face at that.  I think it’s important to see just how interested the guy is in calling the girl first (throw that three day rule out the freakin’ window already), get to know one another a bit and then set a date.  But to arrange a date upon first meeting, that’s just a bit too pushy to me!

2. Never ask a woman what she wants to do. Always lead. Women hate a man who’s wishy washy, but they will never tell you to your face. She just won’t return your calls anymore.

I don’t think it’s so much about asking her what SHE wants to do as it is about asking what she wants to do ALL the time!  Be creative!  Show the woman YOU have the ability to plan a date all on your own.  But certainly don’t discount the impression that asking her what she want’s once in a while will leave!

3. Never plan long dates. In fact the shorter the better while you are getting to know each other. This also makes it easier to do free things and not feel the pressure to spend money on her.

This is the only point I agree with.  It’s great if a planned ’short’ date turns into a long date, but don’t start off with that plan! 

I also find it an attractive quality when a man could impress me with a cheap or free date rather than going straight for the wooing with expensive dinners, etc.

It takes a great imagination to come up with a low cost date plan and that in turn shows that he has an imagination that will keep my attention on various other topics as well.

Granted, Lance has a few great points, but to categorize all men, women and their dates into one list of rules is just not possible.

Every date is going to be as unique as the individual.  While I agree that buying gifts early on in the relationship is a big fat NO NO ~ there are many women out there that identify a man’s interest by the gifts they receive.

That’s just my two cents and then some.

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