Divorce And The Domino Effect

It’s no secret that divorce is a common ending to over half of marriages in America. The traditional line, “Until death do you part,” just doesn’t hold the same meaning as it used to. In fact, many people are opting to substitute such binding vows for less definitive ones. So why then, do so many of these couples chose to procreate and add more victims to the train wreck that is divorce?

I’m sure that there are some who really do plan on staying for the long haul, as my mother did. But life’s cruel hand often deals cards that are unexpected and causes the marriage to dissolve. My Dad told me that he regretted having kids after the messy divorce, because he saw the pain that it caused us. While I am grateful that he did have children, I can see why he would feel that way. When unstable couples decide to have children, not considering the effects that an unhealthy relationship could have on them, they are acting selfishly.

My sisters and I still deal with the inner turmoil that my parents’ divorce spawned and we are all grown women, with families of our own. It has been 14 years since my parents’ split and the dominoes have yet to cease their seemingly unending chain of collapse. People, who say that children eventually get over the trauma and move on, are ignorant of the full spectrum of damage that divorce can wreak on a child, long after the finalization.

Tags: behavior, divorce, emotional distress