Do guys really want an old-fashioned wife?
January 3, 2007 by gayla
Filed under Relationships
I’m in the process of conducting a bit of a ‘non-scientific study’ for someone who recently proposed the question on whether or not men genuinely want to end up marrying an old fashioned kind of girl.
We’ve all heard it from our mother’s and grandmothers – but then again, we all know that ‘times change‘ – right?
I took my little investigation over to a forum where a diverse crowd of singles tend to hangout. After presenting the same question there, I was able to draw my own conclusion from the small percentage of men and women who actually responded.
What I’m seeing is that women are the ones that want to be old fashioned – the stay-at-home-mom and housewife – while men seem to want their wife to have some sort of marketable skill and to help out with the family finances.
Is that a safe assumption?
What are your thoughts?
Its funny because I wrote about this a few weeks ago.
Personally, I think the concept of the old fashioned wife who sits at home and just cooks and clean is absolutely ludicrous. With the opportunities open to women now, modern technology has made house maintenance significantly easier, and the overall understanding that men have to help out now … there is no reason a childless wife shouldn’t be working.
SBM, you my hero!
Why fight for all these rights, to go back to bein barefoot and in the kitchen?
I love being a stay at home mom. I have 6 children and one on the way. My husband works with computers and I used to be a teacher. Hoever when it come to raising children if you are not available you can’t do it. I feel that if I worked I would have no engery to take care of my children when they got home from school.
My boyfriend of 3 and a half years just told me the other night that he wants an old-fashioned wife. It broke my heart because we have been together for a while now and he knows how independant I am. Now it is like he is saying I am not the woman he has always wanted and he is also telling me that I need to work on it and think about changing for him. I don’t even know how to deal with this.
Diane, has he outlined what he means by “an old-fashioned wife?” Maybe he means something other than you do.
If you’ve been happy up until now, I’d just keep doing what you are doing. It could be all talk. If he wants something other than who you are, then there’s probably someone better suited for you out there.
When my wife and I first got married thirteen years ago she wanted to stay home and raise the kids.
Over time she realized that she wanted more than that and recently just graduated college and is in the process of applying for new jobs in her new profession! It has done amazing things for her confidence!
Yes, Yes, Yes!
At least in my case. I’m 25 so I suppose you could say that I’m supposed to want the ‘career woman’. But, I’m just not all that impressed with her.
The traditional family structure was much more stable- and in my opinion people seemed happier with it.
Since antiquity, has there ever been a people whose basic family structure had been so radically altered in such a short period of time?