Comments on: Do You Have a Deal Breaker?

By: Marye Audet

Marye Audet — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 05:27:38 +0000

Fern, I think that when violence is introduced then it isn’t a matter of a deal breaker anymore..it is survival. Thanks for commenting. I hope your Labor Day was fantastic.

By: Fern R

Fern R — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 05:25:12 +0000

I think there’s always only been one deal breaker for me. I won’t tolerate being physically abused. Okay, there’s another one. If my husband ever abused our as-yet-unborn children, I would leave immediately. Other than that I think I always knew that there is pretty much nothing that could happen that would make me want a divorce.

I’ve been with my husband for almost nine years, and we just celebrated our 5th wedding anniversary. Our marriage isn’t a “perfect marriage.” There have been a few times when it wasn’t even a “pretty good marriage.” But the thought of going through life without Mick isn’t appealing to me. Even taking into account his faults–and at this point, I have my eyes wide open–the good far outweighs the bad. Even if he cheated on me or gambled away all of our money or developed a drug habit. He’s stuck with me.

By: Marye Audet

Marye Audet — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 17:19:21 +0000

Gner, physical abuse is definitely a deal breaker! I think that emotional/verbal abuse is as well…

By: Ginger

Ginger — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 16:11:56 +0000

Physical abuse is a deal breaker.

By: Marye Audet

Marye Audet — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 13:36:51 +0000

Thanks Tamara! It is great to see you. I think that as we mature in our marriages we come ot understand the concept of grace more and more…and more…and more! LOL!

By: Tamra @ It All Started With a Kiss

Tamra @ It All Started With a Kiss — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 12:54:15 +0000

I always told him if he cheated, it would be over. That hasn’t been tested (and I don’t think it will) BUT I have come to a different conclusion. I now think I would stay and try to work it out. I can’t imagine how hard that would be… yet there are bigger issues to consider, like the children.

Anyways, when we talked about it, he almost cried, saying that was one of the best illustrations of undeserved grace he could think of. Further, he said that me saying that did not give him license to stray, as it was like Paul wrote about sinning so grace could abound – No way!

We all need more people who encourage couples to STAY, even when it’s not “fair”. Bless you!