Evaluating Your Life and Marriage

My Husband and I are celebrating our 8th year wedding anniversary in a couple of weeks’ time and as per usual, we are going on an overnight trip somewhere. Since we are going on a month-long holiday to the US and Canada later this year, we decided to keep this getwaway to a simple affair.

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One of the things that we do on our anniversary is to talk about the following:

• highs and lows of our marriage
• what we love most about each other
• what we’d like to change or improve to have a better relationship
• our role as parents – what we want for our child
• our plans for the future

The discussion about these things does not always end happily. I remember there was one year that we sort of got into a heated discussion about a particular topic. We did kiss and make up that night though We both believe that to make a marriage work, we need to communicate more and talk not only about the negative aspects of our marriage but also the good ones. Our anniversary is also our time for just us, us as a married couple and not us as parents or career people. This does not mean that we don’t talk about important things through the year but we do make it a point that every year, when we mark and celebrate the our wedding date that we do talk about important things without prejudice.

What about you? Do you and your spouse talk about the state of your marriage? When do you normally do it?