Facebook and Looking For Old Boyfriends
March 8, 2009 by Michelle Smith
Filed under Relationships
Okay, now I’ve gone and done it……I’ve figured out Facebook.
Well, mostly figured it out – there are still some things that I don’t get. For example, how do I add friends to a “note” when I do an meme? I need my girl, Leah, to walk me through it, I suspect. Leah, she’s one of my two closest girlfriends - I found them both on MySpace. We were friends the first time, back in the 8th grade.
So far, I have a few old friends and even a couple old boyfriends added to my “friends.” I love hearing from old boyfriends. I’m not a bitter ex, so I like to hear that they are doing well, see photos of their kids, their wives. It’s not that I’m ridiculously balanced or grounded or mentally healthy – I just don’t feel that we are keeping score. If an ex goes on to find love and happiness, it does not take anything from me and my accomplishments. There’s enough good to go around for everyone, I think.
My ex-fiance, whom I’ve not seen since….’85 or possibly ‘86, put up photos of himself and his family last week. He was a sweet, blonde, cherub-like, curly-haired boy, back in the day. Mom has this clear memory of him smelling the scratch-n-sniff stickers that my little brother tacked up to his door. Today, he’s got that hot pirate look going on – tan, shaved head, huge tattoo, earrings. It suits him. Mom said, “Wow. So, manly.” I’m pretty sure that he’s still the type to stop and admire a kid’s scratch-n-sniff stickers.
I sent a message to another old beau. This one, he’s from way back – the 10th grade, when I was 15. I wasn’t very good to this boy. He was just my type – rebellious, lovely skin, great smile, good kisser – but he had this slow, gentleness to him that I was too young to appreciate at the time. I’m hoping to hear that this man is doing well, too. I’d like to admire photos of him, his family, maybe his wife, and smile because he’s living a good life.
My computer has brought me so many good things over the years, including a way to earn a living, but absolutely the greatest gift it’s given me is the re-introduction of old friends. My last love, we found each other through Classmates.com and even though that hasn’t turned out the way that I had hoped, I still wish him the best, and hope to hear from him from time to time.
How about you – have you ever looked up an old boyfriend on Facebook? How about MySpace or Classmates.com?
great blog, i love to read it…thanks!
i never use Facebook to search for anyone but its a great tool to keep yourself connected with old pals
I google my exes on a regular basis. Mostly so that I can feel better about myself for not having gone the distance with them. Most of them were/are losers.
Found your question in my feed list (Marriage Actually) and it made me recall a similar post I did 3 years ago, wherein I ask the question “Have you ever Googled an ex?”
http://whatsit2you.blogspot.com/2006/03/you-never-know-what-you-might-find.html
Prior to that post, and ever since, I’ve not found myself wondering about the people in my past. So other than this one exercise, I don’t see any benefit to seek anyone out.
You don’t see a benefit in reconnecting with old friends? I’ve enjoyed talking to quite a few old friends in the past couple of years. As for benefits, I dated one for a year and a half and my two best friends are girls that I was friends with as a teen. Not ever life experience is going to bring a benefit, though. Some are just experiences for experience sake.