Comments on: Fathers as parenting role models.

By: Stuart

Stuart — Tue, 27 Jan 2009 16:00:04 +0000

I voted Negative role model based almost completely on his consumption of alcohol and the ruinous effects it had on our family. He is gone now and I find myself with tons of things I wish I could ask him about now that I too am a dad. He had some good personality traits, but booze just wrecked it. I am trying to make the word DAD feel like a positive thing after a lifetime of just the opposite.

By: Maximus

Maximus — Thu, 20 Dec 2007 13:37:35 +0000

I would like to see a continuation of the topic

By: brent

brent — Mon, 22 Oct 2007 02:31:59 +0000

one of the interesting things for me was that when my oldest son hit about 2 years old and started to do things that made me angry – I realised that I still held some very deep resentment about the way my dad dealt with his own anger when I was very little.

I’ve never really talked about it with him, and he’s a great father and grandparent, but it hit me pretty hard. I found myself exploding quite angrily (I mean… little kids can do infuriating things)…

…I believe that anger is a natural and healthy emotion, but that how a person expresses it reveals a lot about them. I found myself expressing my anger in ways that my father used to, and that, before I was a parent, I NEVER would have done. I wasn’t violent. Just angry.

It was strange how strong those deep-down memories proved to be.

By: Pete Aldin

Pete Aldin — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 23:37:56 +0000

Unfortunately, my relationship with my Dad is still strained and this is largely because he’s an angry man who loves to point the finger…. whoops I’m doing it back at him now. Damn!

Good question and interesting thread…

By: Douglas Karr

Douglas Karr — Sat, 20 Oct 2007 18:41:57 +0000

I know my parents love me, but after 40 years of hearing advice on what to ‘fix’, I’m done trying to please them. There comes a point in your life when you figure out who you are and you need to be comfortable with that person.

I love my kids and I’ve always ‘accentuated the positive’, it’s taken my kids incredibly far and I believe we’re a much happier family for it.

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By: Bad Dad

Bad Dad — Fri, 19 Oct 2007 17:59:32 +0000

That’s an excellent question. I voted “mixed.” My father has always been supportive of me, but I’ve been uncomfortable with the way he treats my mother. He was also either working or doing his one hobby. So if I wasn’t working with him, I wouldn’t see him often. Different generation I guess.

So as it relates to my own children, I try to see my children morning and night. I don’t have any hobbies (other than late night blogging and podcasting) so I’m there for the family during non-work hours/days.