Female Executives and Dating

I read a piece in Forbes about executive women and the problems that they face in the search for love. The problems stem from several things: 1) A lack of time, 2) A lack of men who meet their dating criteria, and 3) Men are put off by their success.

You know what you need to do if you want to fit a man into your life?  You fit him into your life. You decide that a relationship is what you want and you pursue it. You make time and you get over the idea that his success can’t measure up to your own. Honey, somebody somewhere is always going to more successful than you are. Get over it. It’s like that saying about putting your pants on one leg at a time – we are all only human. You do not rule The World, even though you may rule Your World.

But her seven-days-a-week workday begins at 7 a.m., and the e-mailing and problem-solving can go on until as late as 10 p.m., not to mention the evenings she’s out at business events or traveling to visit clients in Toronto, Washington and other cities…Not surprisingly, she adds, “I end up canceling dates a lot.” Once, when Ptacin had rescheduled a get-together for the fourth time via text message, the man picked up the phone and “really went off on me,” she says. “He asked if we were ever going to go out or if he should just move on.” She let him move on.

No kidding. He was wise to move on. If this woman has no time to date, how is she ever going to have time to carry on a long-term relationship, a marriage, or raise a family? She won’t. You can’t have it all. You can have a lot or enough, but something has to give somewhere.  Expecting the world the revolve around you and your schedule is selfish and ridiculous. 

I don’t care if you are male or female – what good is success if you have no one to share it with? 

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