I’ve found that having a child with autism doesn’t necessarily cause marital conflict as much as it amplifies/magnifies whatever relationship problems already exist. I’m glad you are giving this aspect of autism (marital relationships) the treatment and attention it deserves. Autism is a tough nut, all on its own. Marriage is harder, I think, because it does necessitate some form of reciprocity of the relationship as opposed to parent-child where the parent always has the final say and control.

And the struggle for control seems to be a dominant theme in most marital conflicts. It just happens to overlap with the dynamics of autism, where there are so many things that seem to spin out of control.