Give me my space
August 30, 2006 by gayla
Filed under Relationships
Have you ever had a friend who disappeared for weeks on end after becoming involved in a new relationship? Perhaps that person was you?
BellaOnline is an online magazine for women that focuses on a variety of topics including dating. Imagine that!
While reading through the mirage of dating articles, I found one that I felt needed a bit more focus and hopefully discussion.
It’s great to be caught up in a new relationship, to feel the pleasures of falling in love, but when you become so absored in the relationship that you lose your entire being and self identity, it’s time to step back and create your own space in order to maintain your own individuality.
We all need our space, and this is really true once we become involved in a relationship. As an outsider looking in on other’s relationships it is easy to see when space is needed. For example, it’s easy to criticize your friend who disappears for weeks on end only to contact you if her boyfriend is on a business trip, or breaks up with her, etc. But why is it so hard to see ourselves behaving this way. There are some warning signs to look for when you are not giving yourself or your partner enough space. More …
The article goes on to offer up the following signs that you may just need to create more space within the relationship:
- your friends stop calling
- you can’t remember the last time you spent your free time apart
- you have stopped doing a hobby that you once loved
- friends and family are complaining they never seen you anymore
What are some other signs or warnings that you may be overly consumed in a relationship and need to create a little breathing room to keep true to the person you once were?
